Going to the bank to bank in your money in those CDM (Cash deposit machine)can sometimes be frustrating .Most banks do not allow over the counter deposit unless it is over 3K. Some may even charge a Rm2.00 for that service.
I regularly have to bank in the money through those CDM's and I have a few times encountered some problems with it. It is quite a common occurrence.
If the CDM is F#@K up,you can inform the officers if it happens during the working hours.Otherwise you will have to fill in a form and give it to the guard if there is one or go to the bank to inform them the next working day if you have encountered a problem after the bank's working hours.
If you are from a far away place , you can call their customer service but it will take about 5 days to check and settle your case.
When the machine shows an 'out of service' on the screen after you have banked your money in and the transaction cannot complete , there is nothing you can do about it. The money is jammed inside the CDM and it will not work anymore .
The next day , two bank officers will attend to the machine and take out the money and checked the computer records to verify the amount.
Sometimes, in the midst of your transactions, the power goes off for a minute,and then comes on again,your money is swallowed by the machine but there will not be any receipts or your money is not credited into your account. The CDM functions normally after the power comes on again.
The bank officers will tally their collections for that day and if there is any excess amount which corresponded with your amount claimed, then they will credit it back into your account.
If there is less than you claimed, then there is nothing you can convinced them that you banked in that certain amount.It is their words against yours.
It is always wise to count your money twice and be certain of the amount before you put them in the CDM.I don't really trust those machines. I have on occasions lose one or two notes after the machine spit out the money.
You don't have to camp near the CDM to prevent people from stealing your money like this man in China. The money is safe in the machine unless you are very unlucky and thieves stole the CDM machine from that place.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.weirdasianews.com/2009/04/18/man-guard-atm-night-lost-money/
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It is so hard to understand men or is it women! Sighs! We all know men and women are not the same and they don't think on the same wave length.When faced with the same incident,men and women will react differently.
There are major physiological and psychological differences between the sexes.The sooner we realize the differences, the better we will know how to accept and understand the man's behaviour.
Let us peek into a man's brain and see what goes on inside of them.
Not all men may think alike but generally , there are many issues which they do agree upon. It is better for them to stop their thoughts before it gets out from their mouth and start a world war.
There are some things men don't tell women.They would rather keep quiet and hold the peace then saying out their opinions. Only those unwise would commit these faux paux.
Some women have a constant need to stay in touch with their men to show that they are thinking of him or care for him. They want to know what their men are doing and whether they are thinking the same things about them in return. They would want to satisfy their curiosity about what he is doing , what's on his mind and where he is at the moment .
Generally men are not good at long conversations over the phone .They would rather prefer short and to the point conversations and not talk about the weather or other irrelevant things or girlish talks over the phone. This action by the women can be irritating and sometimes frivolous to him but he cannot express his frustrations because it would hurt her feelings.
Women love shopping and it can be a good therapy for them when they are unhappy.Some women are just 'spend happy .'Sometimes , they can go overboard and rake up huge monthly bills and cause a blow out with their men.
Women are now working and spending their own money .As long as she stays within her limits, there will be no outbreak of hostilities.However,tensions may simmer underneath his exterior and this may affect the relationship.
Another area is her physical well being. Men secretly expect their women to be sexy all the time .They cannot tell their women that they are fat and need to reduce weight or their clothes look awful.
Women have to mix and match their clothes, accessories daily and being bombarded with those choice questions every time she does that is troublesome for him. He would just say anything she decides would be fine with him and would be of no help to her.
He would not want to tell her to be more conservative about her dressings or being too sexy when they go out. Before marriage, he likes you to be sexy but after marriage, he wants you to cover up. Or it could be the opposite way.
He does not like the idea of other men ogling at his women.Similarly, he cannot tell her to be more circumspect in her work place.He may think she is acting way off when speaking to other men but he is forced to hold his tongue.
He may have problems but he would not want to tell her about it and add to her worries. Women worry about anything and everything.
Why burden her and make her suffer the pain? He is better off drowning his problems with the boys at the watering hole. He is told to leave his work related problems at his work place and not to take it back home .
Men do not really tell the truth when it comes to her cooking.They may not like it but they have to pretend to enjoy it for her sake. She puts so much effort into it and it would be a sin to tell her that it taste like aaagh!
There are so many things a man does not want to tell his wife. They don't like their wife to clean and rearrange their things,to go shopping with them, to help them clean the house,to go out with her friends,the amount they spend on the phone or in front of the T.V .
If there is love, everything will be fine.
“Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back.”
~Arthur Rubinstein
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.canadianliving.com/relationships/love/things_men_want_to_tell_women__but_dont.php
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You can show off your cleavage as it is nature's way for you to attract the opposite sex.Men are riveted by the sight of your cleavage and boobs.
Its a sight to behold and they will never get tired of it. The perverted one's would drool .When they talk to you , their eyes are on your chest instead of looking directly into your real eyes.
If you have it , you can flaunt it but if you don't have it ,it is just too bad. Women who wear provocative attire get more attention but there is a downside to it.Showing too much cleavage is not wrong but there is a time and place for it.
We all know cleavage is a very powerful WMD .(Weapons of Mass Destruction)Most women want to feel young and sexy by showing a bit or too much cleavage to attract the attention of those men.
You should not show too much cleavage in the workplace.It is not compatible with the status of the job unless you are working in the 'Hooters' or those sleazy bars.
Showing too much cleavage in the workplace hampers a woman's chances of promotion.It would appear that you are using your sex to sell your abilities rather than your professional qualifications.
If you want to look more professional at the workplace, you should dress more discreetly and gain the respect of those people in the business like environments.Those places are more conservative in outlook. You do not want your clients to keep staring at your chest and making you feel uneasy.
If you wear low-cut tops and short skirts ,it will seem out of place in the workplace. Some may not show the cleavage but the present fashion trend is showing off the bra straps at the top and the back.
You will look less professional and may incur the ire of other female staffs and causing tensions in the air.
There has been an increasing numbers of women who are showing more cleavage at work by wearing plunging necklines , tight tops or skimpy outfits.
There are other instances where you should not show too much cleavage, when you are meeting someone very important like your future-in-laws, going for a job interview and even in those social networking sites.
Regardless of your work performance,a person that dresses better usually gets treated with more respect. Baring too much cleavage is a big mistake in the workplace. Other common mistakes are too much perfume or cologne, too much jewelry or clothes that are too tight.It is too distracting, unprofessional, disrespectful and inappropriate.
Be more professional and use some common sense. If you want to be taken seriously , you cannot flash your boobs all over the place.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1198965/Cleavage-real-stopper--workplace-hampers-promotion-prospects.html
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/429593/how_much_cleavage_is_too_much_cleavage.html?cat=7
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Nick Vujicic was born without arms or legs and he plays football, golf, surfs, and swims. He is an incredible and astonishing human being.
He has a small foot on his left hip which helps him balance and enables him to kick.
He uses his one foot to type, write with a pen and pick things up between his toes.
He was born in Melbourne, Australia to a computer programmer and accountant and a nurse, but now lives in Los Angeles.
Why was he born that way ?
No one can explain from a scientific or medical perspective. It is one of those things which are a mystery to us and only God knows why he was born that way.
Life was not easy for him as he could not be independent and had to depend on those carers. When he was eight years old , he was very depressed and wanted to kill himself.
He found God and hope and with the help of his religion, friends and family, he managed to pull through to become an international symbol of triumph over adversity.
He has visited 24 different countries, touring the world as a motivational speaker
In his own words,'I realised why God had made us like this - to give hope to others. I tell people to keep on getting up when they fall and to always love themselves.'
If he can do it without arms and legs,we who are more blessed than him should not give up that easily.Life should be cherished, valued and appreciated.
When you are down , there is hope in God for He will help you to get up. Nick is the living miracle of what God can do in our life. Without Him , we would find it meaningless and would have given up on our life.
God came to save and to heal the sick.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/worldnews/article-1196755/The-astonishing-story-man-born-arms-legs--world-famous-swimmer-surfer-footballer.html
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Four out of every ten babies born in America are born to unmarried parents. It is not only happening in America but in many parts of the world. Eight babies are born out of wedlock in the state of Johore in Malaysia everyday!
In the past, most of those babies were born by those teenagers but today, times have changed. They only constitute around 23 %. Now 60% are in the 20's and around 17% in the 30's.
Some of those women may not be officially or legally married but they are living together or cohabiting with the father of their child.
In Malaysia, they will need to get a birth certificate or they will have problems registering for schooling or for the 'MyCard' which is an identity card.They will become stateless people.
Why is this occurrence becoming too common and rapidly rising ?
Getting married today is a very costly affair. Before you could get married at home and only need to spend around RM$1K .But today you will need to have at least Rm$20K to Rm$30K to cover the barest minimum for all those wedding expenses.
Some couples borrow from banks or with their credit cards or get a friendly loan from their parents to hold the wedding . In Malaysia, especially the Chinese culture, they will receive those red packets,'Angpows.'( red envelope which contains money inside).
These days , guests will give money in red envelopes and do not buy those gifts for the newly weds.Their relatives would buy them gold ornaments . In a way , those 'angpows' would help to defray their wedding expenses.
Some of them may even make money, while some may break even and some will have to top up the cost of holding the wedding.In the end, the figure 20K is intimidating but the cost of holding the wedding is lesser or around 10K which is quite affordable to many average person.
With the standard of living rising and the depressing times, many may not want to hold the wedding or downgrade the spending. Some may just opt for the registration and photo shoot only .
Once they register their marriage, they are legally married but without the traditional and customary wedding ceremony. Others may hold the customary marriage when the times are better.
Another reason is the lack of sex education in schools. Many teenagers do not have adequate knowledge to protect them from unwanted pregnancies or STD's.Even if they know about contraception's, there is no 100% safe methods.
Our modern society is sex driven with all those pornographic materials which are readily available online and in the market .Due to the peer pressures, girls are losing their virginity and engaging in free and unsafe sex.
In some countries, abortions are free or inexpensive. They treat abortions as a contraceptive method which is ethically and morally wrong. Multiple abortions are quite common among the people who lives in those countries.
Marriage and sex are no more sacrosanct and the morality of today's teen is spiraling downwards and sex is treated like a handshake .
Reference and thanks to :-
http://thestar.com.my/news/story.asp?file=/2009/7/3/nation/4246862&sec=nation
http://www.empowher.com/community/share/40-children-america-are-now-born-out-wedlock
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There is the handshake ,then the French kiss and now the girl kiss girl thingy.It is a new phenomenon started with Madonna and Britney Spears and the first public kiss they shared at the MTV Video Awards in 2003. Other young women like Peaches Geldof, actress Megan Fox and singer Lily Allen have also exhibited this behaviour.
What is it like for a girl to kiss another girl in public?
It is definitely not the same as a girl kissing a man which is more natural.Some are naturally curious and would like to experiment and find out how it feels to kiss the same sex .
It is no more unusual to see a straight girl kissing another girl in public, especially those famous personalities on the world stage.
The average Jane's are doing it at their own private house parties. It is a form of exhibition .It doesn't mean at all that they'd go further in private. It is a way of showing off and to prove they are not square and boring.
They are not considered lesbians and it is just a kind of social trend or the in thing to do these days.Being flirty and affectionate or daring and adventurous.To get the thrilling experience and being the centre of attractions.
Girl kissing girl was once associated with lesbian behaviour and in some societies, it still does.The girls kissing each other is akin to those 'tiger' shows which are performed by two females having sex on stage.
This type of girl to girl kiss may not be acceptable in some societies and considered risque public behaviour.
This new shocking and disturbing trend is catching on with the new generations.They want to experiment and flirt with lesbianism.
Who knows what they will do further when they are alone ? Will they go for the next stage and graduate as lesbians?
For those famous personalities, they want to create a layer of mystique about them but for those precocious youngsters who followed them , they are pretty naive about what is the fallout from such a practice.
Sometimes , it is intense social pressures to fit into a certain society which thinks it is fashionable but I don't know if they are mature or understand enough to deal with those complicated issues .
There is a new generations of those young celebrities who are doing it and making the headlines .They are being emulated by many of today's teenagers.It is happening more and more and some girls think it is O.K to do it. It looks more grown up and cool.
Will the men do the same ?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1196636/Lipstick-lesbians-How-kiss-sparked-teenage-trend-disturb-parent.html
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Women can have it all, career and family but what about the men ? We seldom hear about how the modern lifestyle have affected the men.Are the men able to cope with the extra workload ? Will they be torn between their careers and the children ?
With women working in greater numbers , who is left in charge of the children? The men are pushed more and more into playing the female gender roles like taking care of the children , house chores and cooking.The gender roles are no more distinct and has blurred.More and more men are now involved in the domestic routine and childcare responsibilities.
If you are a man with a working wife, you will be hard pressed to accommodate both work and family life in your schedule. You are expected to pull your weight in the family unlike your father or grandfather who never did those jobs in the house.You do not have a choice unless you are rich enough to hire maids to do those jobs.
The result is that modern men feel pulled in every direction. The women is able to multi task while the men are bewildered. A woman may spend 24/7 with the children but let the man have the child for 1 hour and he will go bonkers and quickly send a S.O.S to his wife.A man is not made like a woman .
The modern men will have to bring home the bacon while at the same time ensuring they're an intrinsic part of their children's lives.
For a man , career is very important . They are in a dilemma whether to stay at work late to protect their job, or rush home to do their share of childcare as their wife expects?
Before a man marries, he has two choices. To marry a working wife or a full time housewife? He will have to weigh the pro's and con's .
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1195315/Exhausted-guilt-ridden-torn-career-children-No-YOU-girls-Having-harder-men.html
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School discipline is on the wane and violent crimes committed by wayward students are on the rise.The student of today are an indiscipline lot. They are more daring and violent and student gangs are flourishing. Even the girls have their own gangs.
Knifing,gang fights over girls and territories, brutal beatings on slightest provocations and senseless rape carried out in some schools are more common these days.
Some students even bring guns to school and there have been cases where they mowed down their fellow students in cold blood.These phenomenon does not only happen in one country but is a worldwide problem.
Most of the teachers are females and the school environment is no more a safe place as there is a lack of men teachers .If anything were to happen, it would be too late to prevent it.It is an occupational hazard.
Schools should have a security force to maintain the security in the school and protect those teachers and students.
The 32 years old teacher was brutally assaulted and raped by a 15-year-old pupil .She was alone in her classroom after lessons. She just started teaching for only a week and met with a horrifying ordeal.
Who is liable for this unfortunate incident?
The onus is on the school to protect its staff but such incidents are difficult to preempt. No matter how much you try to prevent such incidents , if it is bound to happen, it will happen .
One crazed student is all it takes and you won't know when and where he will strike. The school did not foresee that problem. It did not happen before. Schools will now have to take more radical measures to ensure the teachers are working in a safer environment.
Teachers will also have to use their common sense and do not take unnecessary risk when dealing with recalcitrant students.
We regret for what happened to this teacher and wish her well for the future.The school is not totally liable and this incident highlights the dangers that teachers will face in the future.
What has become to our youths of today?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1194889/Teacher-raped-15-year-old-pupil-blames-school-putting-way-rapist.html
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Physical attractions is a very powerful magnetic force.It is like a strong tractor beam that will pull your attentions to them.You cannot avoid it. We are naturally attracted to beautiful people.
We will feel intimidated initially when we come across a person who is extremely beautiful or handsome. To say that we are not intimidated at all is to delude oneself. For some , even looking at them can send them the 'shivers.'
It is not just beauty alone that we are intimidated but it can also be wealth and fame too.
Why are your hands shaking, your voice breaking or stuttering , your legs quivering and your heart and pulse beating at a frantic pace ?
Why do you suddenly become self conscious of how you walk or act? You have a funny sensation of your gait.You don't know why you felt that way about your manner of walking. It feels strange all of a sudden..LOL!
Your brain doesn't seem to function and you get tongue-tied just thinking about what you want to say to her for fear of offending her sensibilities.
It affects both the guys and the girls. When someone is more beautiful or handsome than us, we will feel intimidated.
When a guy see's a very beautiful, hot and sexy girl,he will feel intimidated because he will think that she will have many male admirers because she is probably very popular. He may think that he is just an average guy and is not good enough for her .He fears rejection from her.
But the truth is sometimes those beautiful girls are sitting at home and waiting to be asked out. It will be the players who would dare to invite them out and leave them in the end.
For the girls,they not only have to face the intimidation's from the guys but also from their own kind. If they know another gorgeous girl is interested in him,they may give him up without trying.
They may feel that they are not pretty enough and he would not be interested in them. Some will act 'cool' towards those guys.
We feel more comfortable talking and interacting with an average looking guy.
How can you overcome those intimidation's ?
They may look more beautiful or handsome than you but everyone has their uniqueness.Do not give them too much 'worth.' They are after all humans too and not angels or God.They came from a better genes and a person is not judged on the physical beauty alone. When you have this mindset, you will not be awed by their striking beauties.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.divaasia.com/article/4062
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In the world of woman’s lingerie,there is a fine line between one type of panty and the next. There is the tangas, sambas or G-strings and thongs. It is a bit confusing to many people .
A G-string provides the least amount of coverage in the front as well as the back, with less than a quarter inch of fabric making up the back strap.
Why do women prefer thongs and G-strings?
Some women have well defined 'buns' and would like to show them off without those visible panty lines .Wearing them can make one feel sexy and comfortable once you get used to it .
Some women like to wear mini skirts and the hemlines are rising and sometimes , they are just an inch from the panty.
Some women are naughty,sexy and enjoy risque behaviours. Thongs and G-strings are not limited only to the women but the men wear them too and some of them even prefer the ladies variety.
The thong strap fits snugly between the buttocks for minimum coverage on the behind and virtually no visible panty line(VPL)to worry about. Some women are aghast when their panty outline are clearly seen through their dress or pants.It would spoil the aesthetic look of their behinds.
Women risk their health wearing G-strings knickers. They can damage the skin and cause infections, experts in Germany warns women.Dr Thomas Gent of the Association of Gynaecologists advised women to wear bigger pants to avoid complications.
He blamed the friction caused by the string part of the underwear for a big rise in the number of patients he had seen reporting genital inflammation.
A UK gynaecologist said it was the ill-fit rather than the underwear type that was probably the problem.
Dr Gent said: "G-strings can abrade and injure the sensitive skin around the genital area - especially if they are too tight or made with badly stitched material."
This damage can aid the spread of bacteria and cause fungal infections, he said. If underwear is too tight it can create an ideal environment for fungal infections, such as thrush, to grow and thrive.
It is obvious that you should not wear G-strings and thongs for extended period of time or for exercises.According to Rhode Island doctor Adelaide Nardone, MD, on News-Medical.Net, women should “be careful when wearing thongs [when exercising], as they may irritate delicate skin of the vulva and transfer bacteria to the vaginal area.” It is best to limit your thongs or G-Strings to special occasions only or forgo them completely.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.lifescript.com/Body/Style/Shopping/Women_Who_Wear_Thongs.aspx
http://www.funreports.com/fun/26-01-2007/1481-bikini_models-0
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The birth of a young one is an auspicious occasion for the parents.The first thing they will look for is to see that the baby is physically normal, acts normal like any babies and whether it is a boy or a girl.
With today's technology, they would probably have carried out scans in the first trimester and found out about the sex of their baby.
There have been a report of a baby born without any genitals .Muhammad Nabil Mustaqim Rodzake was born without genitals. The baby had only one orifice and the urine and waste products were discharged through it.
Since s/he was born without any external sexual organs, the doctors were not able to tell if it was a boy or a girl. It was only after a DNA test that the sex of the baby was known.Whether s/he will grow up as a girl or boy will be another matter.
The official sex of a baby is decided by the physical process, whether they have those male organs or female organs.There is another way to decide the sex by the psychological process, whether they exhibit those male or female characteristics.
Some can be born physically male /female but who feels that they are a woman /man trapped in the wrong body.It is not the body shape but the brains and the hormones which decide whether one is male or female. You think you are a male but later down the road, you discover that you are a female, born in the body of a male.You are a trans gender!
What would it be like to be born without any genitalia ?
At the moment , the doctors cannot do anything about it yet as the real sex of the baby has not manifested. It would be wrong to assume that it will be a boy since the DNA test showed he has male characteristics.Once,the sex is confirmed , reconstructive surgery can be performed on the baby.
If he is born in the 1st world countries, he will get those free treatments under the government policies. If he is born in a 3rd world country, he will have to depend on the generosities and charities of other people.
It will be traumatic for the baby when he grows up and finds out that he is different from the others.
We wish him all the best and hope that the government or those charitable organizations would look into his plight and help him to lead a normal life.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.themalaysianinsider.com/index.php/malaysia/29719-baby-boy-born-without-a-penis
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It is a very difficult decision for those couples who find themselves in this dilemma.Which is better for your kids, to stay together or to divorce?
Put it in another way. Would you be able to raise your kids who would fare better in life if you stay together or divorce?
Would you find it more conducive to raise your kids in a dysfunctional environment or in a peaceful one ?
Which is more paramount, your own happiness or your children ? Can you be a good parent when you are unhappy always ?
Would you stay in an unhappy and loveless marriage for the sake of your kids ?
If there is no more love in the family , the home is like a war zone and a battle ground between the parents.Parents may fight everyday over every little issues and sometimes violence is unavoidable. If such a condition exists in a home , it would be better to divorce and live separately.
If we seek divorce ,we may fear that the children will grow up without one of the parent's love.
How you handle your divorce and your parenting responsibilities will affect the emotional health of your children.
Some divorce can be amicable while others are acrimonious. If you can have an amicable divorce where you can share equal parental rights , then it would be better to divorce and live separately.
The children will grow up having two homes and will not be seriously affected by the divorce. You will be happier and and be in the proper frame of mind to look after their welfare while they are growing up.
The researchers say that being brought up by a secure single parent is better than being brought up by a couple whose relationship is volatile.
When you stay in a marriage and your mental and psychological state is on tender hooks, you cannot give your very best to your kids.Your perpetual state of anger and your sufferings will tell on your kids.Your trauma will be their trauma.
In such a scenario, I feel it is better to divorce and stay separately.A hurtful and angry parent is not a good parent.She may vent her frustrations unto her children and sometimes she is overcome with stress and depressions and may want to commit suicide together with her children.
If you have tried your very best to mend your marriage and it still does not work out, then leaving is the best option. There is no other recourse if your partner does not want to try to solve the impasse or to seek a compromise solution to the failed marriage.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://marriage.about.com/od/divorce/i/gooddivorceiss.htm
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http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1193758/I-wish-parents-divorced-Do-parents-stay-children-harm-good.html
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Men find the homely shape of the girl-next-door more appealing than the 'perfect' proportions of models and centerfolds, a study found.
Women come in all shapes and sizes,curvy ,hourglass figure (Cola bottles) ,skinny size 'zero's (walking stick),athletic types , long-legged, big-chested 'Barbies',plumb(oil drum)and slim.
For the average male, they do not have high aspirations of looking for a 'perfect female.' An average female with the statistics, a 5ft 4in ,30in waist and 40in hips and who wears a size 14.
I believed that the face and the eyes are the most important features of a person because it can reveal the emotions or the soul of a person. The other parts of the body are rather static and cannot exhibit any or have limited emotions.
Her face and smile may launch a thousand ships and you will always remember her face and her smile which will never change even when she ages. It is the face that you will like and grow fond off as time elapsed.
Women should smile more often ,as a smile can brighten and make her face pleasant,captivating, beautiful and younger looking.A beautiful face is a thing of beauty but has no depth unless it is accompanied by a corresponding beautiful smile.
An average girl with an average face can be beautiful too when she smiles sweetly as the beauty that originates from the inside is sweeter than a smile that is only skin deep.Her personality will shine through her face.
She may not capture his attention on first look but her smile will surely melt his heart. The joy and the smile on her face is the most beautiful thing to admire and cherish.It warmth's the heart and creates those lovely feelings towards the smiler.
If you have an average figure, there is nothing to fret about. If a man loves you , he would be blind to your faults and whether you are skinny or fat, it would not matter to him at all.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,25620551-5006007,00.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1192142/Gentlemen-prefer-Miss-Average-The-perfect-centrefold-body-ousted-homely-shape-girl-door-new-study.html
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David Carradine,who was best known for the US TV series Kung Fu, which aired from 1972-75 was found dead last Thursday.His half-naked body was found in a closet, with a rope tied around his genitals and another rope around his neck.
The actor was in Bangkok to shoot a film and had been staying at the Swissotel Nai Lert Park Hotel since Tuesday.
Many people are unfamiliar with the term,'auto-erotic asphyxiation or breath control play or scarfing.'
Erotic asphyxiation is intentionally cutting off oxygen to the brain for sexual arousal by hanging, suffocation with a plastic bag tied over the head ,self-strangulation such as with a ligature, gas or volatile solvents, chest compression, or a combination of these.
It can also be done by placing the hand over the mouth or nose and during the heightened state of ecstasy , he being stronger could have ignored her scream for air until she passed out.
The practice can be very dangerous even if performed with care and has resulted in a number of accidental deaths.You do not know at which point to stop and once you cross that point of no return , you won't be able to come back. Even if you want to come back , you would be powerless and will drift into unconsciousness and certain death , into the other world beyond.
In an article written in the Independent in 1994 by Celia Hall, erotic asphyxiation was described as extremely dangerous. She quoted American psychologist Michael Apter in her article as saying that erotic asphyxiation was 'the most dangerous sex game in the world'.
Was the death of the British student, Meredith Kercher in Perugia and the killing of the Frenchman, Olivier Mugnier, 24 a result of a dangerous sex game ? Were they involved in an erotic game when Ms Davies tried to “intensify an extreme sexual experience” by putting a knife to his throat?
There are other types of sex games , bondage, exhibitionism, pretend rapes and other weird and kinky one's.
Some teens are playing risky sex games involving drinking bodily fluids and sharing multiple partners.
Teens are playing games they call “rainbow,” “Dixie Cup” and “black-out,”
Rainbow involves oral sex while using different colored lipsticks, Dixie Cup is when participants drink bodily fluids, and black-out is when black paper is placed over the windows to block out light so teens can have sex anonymously with multiple partners in total darkness.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://tnp.sg/news/story/0,4136,204488,00.html?
http://www.bangkokpost.com/news/local/17976/a-dangerous-sex-game
http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/the_way_we_live/article2968706.ece
http://www.examiner.com/a-401861~Health_officials_say_teens_are_playing_dangerous_sex_games.html
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We often read news about police busting those private group sex parties being held in those hotels or private rented homes in Malaysia. This could be just the tip of the iceberg. There maybe more private sex parties that are being held and it is occurring more often or widespread than we know.
Many of these group sex are well organized and hidden from our knowledge. We may not even know if the person next to us is involved or not.
A survey found that the Australian women are as keen as men to take part in consensual group sex and they initiate it often.This must come as a shocking news as the women like it as much as the men!I guess, it is harder to satisfy a woman than a man and that is why they prefer more of those group sex.
Most of those participants are couples and not singles. They participate together with other couples and what is sauce for the goose is also source for the gander.
Many of us may not have participated in consensual group sex and do not know the pleasures derived from it.Some will not even think of it because of their religious faith. We can only fantasize about sleeping with some others partner...LOL!
The most common reasons given for group sex are excitement, variety and to spice up long-term relationships.Whether it can spice up the long term relationship or destroy it is anybody's guess.
I am sure there will be jealousy and bruised ego's all around especially the women who are more emotional and petty minded.Some will have regrets because they were pressured into it or being impaired with alcohol or drugs.Alcohol and drugs would be freely available to let loose their inhibitions .
Sex with the same partner may not be the same anymore because the other women may have better bodies and she will have inferiority complex about it.
The most common form of group sex is a threesome, although one third of respondents say their largest group involved five or more people.Some may only engage once and stop while others may do it weekly or monthly .
It maybe a few minutes or hours of fun but it will be a lifetime of bitterness for some. Some would say,'Life is short!You should enjoy everything under the sun .'
Is it worth it?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.news.com.au/story/0,27574,25541220-29277,00.html
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Are you beautiful? Are you rich ? Do you have what it takes to get a partner? What are the criteria for choosing a mate.
We all know that men are attracted to beauty in women and they can fall in love at first sight . The moment they set their eyes on a beautiful woman they will fall in love with her even if he does not know her .
This kind of love is only skin deep and shallow. The moment she disappears from his sight, he will forget about her unless she is very striking and impressive. It will then be etched deeply in his mind.
Women need to pay attention to their physical attractiveness if they want to keep their mates from straying.Men have roving eyes and it is impossible to stop them from ogling at other pretty women.
It may not be love but probably lust in their eyes. This is the most important and the first criteria in selecting a woman. No men want to to sleep with an ugly woman unless he is blind ,dumb or ugly . Real love is colour blind and blind to all her /his faults.
Physical attractiveness is the highest on their list.They may like a woman for her face,eyes, boobs, legs, butts or any parts of her body. The other qualities are not very important but it will be a bonus if she has, compatibility ,intelligence, sociability, common background
Some men do not fall in love on fist look but on second look when the girls showed their inner beauties and charms. Those without the 'looks' but the inner beauty will get their men.
Physical attractiveness of a man is not very important to a woman. In fact it can be a disadvantage as those men are more tempted to stray.They are not husband materials but more of a plaything. It is not about looks but manners.
Women look for the socioeconomic status of the men , having a stable job and able to provide her with financial and emotional support. Their earning powers,social status and job prestige rates highly on her priority list.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://books.google.com/books?id=BfmuYfz57-8C&pg=PA98&lpg=PA98&dq=Men+do+not+marry+women+like+these&source=bl&ots=rS-ta1N0cd&sig=UQe8OK1B3A6u3Pq77aHupU7LhMg&hl=en&ei=L9wnSvTUC8yAkQXR3fjoDQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2#PPA105,M1
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Women are attracted to confident,self assured and capable men.They are also attracted by their skills, abilities, and achievements. They maybe dominant in their chosen fields but for a long term relationship,women find it unattractive as they could be domineering in the household.
The women want someone whom she can respect and admire but who have a weak spot for them . He can protect her from outsiders or walk over them .In essence they want to have control over him .It can be so subtle that he is not being aware of it.
Men are expected to be dominant in the marriage.It has been the norm since the ages.There are dominant as well as submissive men and the same goes for women.It is finding the right type that suits you or attracted to you . Opposites may attract.
You cannot have everything in life and sometimes you have to submit to each other.Being submissive all the time can be depressing. There is no freedom and you can chaff under the yoke. It would be better if you can compromise sometimes and meet each other half way. It may not be the most ideal situation but at least it makes both of your satisfied.Give and take some .
Sometimes the women maybe the dominant partner but in the back of her mind , she may fantasize being dominated by the men.It will only remain a fantasy unless the men are pushed or received a kick in their butts.
They want dominant men but are turned off by domineering men.This sounds paradoxical. Men have a bigger ego and they do not want to lose out to their women.
Women want to be loved and cherish by strong and amicable men . A dominant men may attract her at first but if he does not know how to temper his dominance, he will lose her in the end.
If you are a submissive or vulnerable women , you would naturally be attracted to a strong and dominant man.
reference and thanks to :-
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/3857017.cms
http://books.google.com/books?id=BfmuYfz57-8C&pg=PA98&lpg=PA98&dq=Men+do+not+marry+women+like+these&source=bl&ots=rS-ta1N0cd&sig=UQe8OK1B3A6u3Pq77aHupU7LhMg&hl=en&ei=L9wnSvTUC8yAkQXR3fjoDQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2#PPA8,M1
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This is a truly moving and very sad tragedy which took place on Beachy Head.
A mother and father committed suicide together by jumping to their deaths with their dead small child in a backpack, and another bag beside them full of his toys.
Their grief and devastation were too great to bear and they decided to join their beloved son who was crippled since a car crash in 2005 - died of meningitis last week.They did not want to be separated from him even in death.
As the story unfolded,theirs was a sorrowful and tragic heartbreaking tale.
They were having a perfect life until that fateful day when an unfortunate accident which turned their life upside down.
She was driving Sam through the Somerset lanes to visit friends when a Volvo coming the other way careered into their path. According to one report, the Volvo driver was distracted by her dogs in the back.
In the resulting smash, Mrs Puttick broke her legs and her pelvis, while her son who was just 16 months suffered devastating injuries which left him paralysed from the neck down and confined to a wheelchair.
Kazumi and Neil both gave up their jobs after the car accident to dedicate themselves to their son. They did everything possible to make their son's life comfortable .
The loving parents devoted their lives to caring for their injured son. How very cruel that he should be taken from them by a fatal infection.
They fought against all odds that fate has thrown their way but the death of their precious child snuffed out their desire to live . It robbed them of a meaningful existence . I live for my children too and without them , I too would feel my life has no purpose .
They were too consumed with grief and misery. Their agony , heartbreak and anguished took a big toll which lead them to take the journey of no return together with their beloved son.
One person's carelessness destroyed a loving family and that fate has dealt a major blow to this loving and perfect family.
Life and death is not in our hands. Treasure your children because we do not know what will happen tomorrow or what the future holds.
May their souls rest in peace . Our hearts and prayers for them and where ever you are, I hope you will find the peace and tranquility .
When we die we leave behind us all we have, and take with us all we are. -Anonymous.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1190061/Beachy-Head-suicide-First-picture-Sam-Puttick-5-meningitis-death-sparked-familys-fatal-jump.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/debate/article-1190466/Maeve-Haran-Guilt-grief-just-deep-bear-pushed-couple-Beachy-Head.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1191129/The-smile-parents-live-The-heart-breaking-story-Beachy-Head-tragedy.html
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Today is 'International Whores Day,' and is celebrated in countries where prostitution is legalized. Prostitution is the oldest profession and can never be eradicated totally.
It attracts not only those who have no skills or low I.Q's but the smart intelligent and beautiful women too. It is the EL Dorado for women. They can earn from $150.00 to $500.00 an hour plus all those perks .
In places where it is illegal, it does not mean that it does not exist but it is driven underground .Either the government closed an eye over this issue or sweep it under the carpet.
The authorities cannot control two individuals who want to make a private deal and what happens in the room is none of their business . In some Islamic countries like Malaysia, the religious and moral police can barge into any hotel rooms and arrest those of the Islamic faith for close proximity or illegal intercourse.
Where there is a demand , there will be a supply. They provide an essential service to the community .Their contributions to the society is unrecognized as their profession is considered immoral and unethical .It is not easy to change people's perspective .
To mention the name ,'Prostitute or Hooker,'would invite scorn and derogatory looks.Even if you work in those social escort agencies,spas,bars,night clubs,massage parlours, you are tainted as well.Some are just fronts for prostitution.
Societies discrimination's and misconceptions of those hookers are hard to remove . It is too deeply ingrained and it would take a very modern and progressive society to give those hookers their rights, treat them fairly and be free from discrimination's.
They are a high risk group and banks or lenders would not want to take the risk. Even though they are working and their incomes can be lucrative, yet they do not have a long life. Their value drops when their age goes up .
Their only recourse is to earn as much as possible while the sun shines and then spend their hard earned money before diseases or death descents upon them.
With all those money stashed away , who needs a bank loan?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,25575256-5001021,00.html
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Hey! That is a great piece of news for those single and cash strapped men who cannot afford to fork out a lump sum of 8K for a Vietnamese bride. You don't have to save enough to marry now. You can marry now by paying only S$167.00 a month and furthermore it is interest free!!!! Cheap ! Cheap!
Times are bad and those match making agencies need to survive. This is an ingenious and creative way to help those poor guys to find a soul mate and for them to make some profits.
Is it morally and ethically wrong ?
Women are not commodities and should not be treated as such . But if it helps the men to settle down and ease their burdens, it should not be morally and ethically wrong.
This is a new concept and should be encourage. Who are we to judge them ? For those who could not afford the 8K , it is a Heaven send gift. It is not that they are poor but it takes time to accumulate 8K .
What if you cannot pay your monthly dues to Diners?
They won't take back your wife and that is the good part of this deal. Diners will sue you and your name will be in the black list.
It is the latest marketing tactic by matchmaking agency Vietnam Brides International
Diners club is a charge card and not a credit card in Malaysia. They will give you 55 days of interest free for your purchases if you buy on the 1st of every month.
Other credit cards only give you 20 days and that is on condition if you settle your last month's bill. Then if you pay your Diners card through Maybank or Ambank , you get another 20 days of interest free!!!! That's a total or 75 days of free interest days!
Want to marry? No problems! You got to thanks Diners card and Vietnam Brides International .
Whats your opinion?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://tnp.sg/news/story/0,4136,203700,00.html?
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Many teens are sexually active but their knowledge of safe sex is woefully inadequate. They may have limited or misguided knowledge about conceptions. How not to get pregnant and what are the contraceptive methods .
After they had sex, they will only start to worry to death if they will get pregnant or when they miss their periods.They get all kinds of advises and they do not know which one is true or not.
The sperm can live inside a body from three to seven days. The most fertile period for a woman is three days before and after her first day of period. To be on a safer side, one should abstain from sex seven days before and after her first day of period. They should use condoms if they want to have sex within that period.
It only take one sperm to fertilize an egg. One discharge may consist of between 250 to 350 million sperms. Even if there is no penetration ,if the sperm comes into contact with your vagina through your hands or orally, it can swim inside of you and fertilize the egg. It can even penetrate through your panties .The risk of pregnancy is very low but it can happen if you are very unlucky ,
The sperm may not survive long outside the body . It depends on the humidity of the room . If it is hot , the liquid may evaporate faster and it will die in a few minutes.If the room is cold and wet, it may survive for about an hour or more.
No contraceptive method is 100% safe and there are instances when a girl is on the pill but can still get pregnant. It is rather rare but do happens. You can even get pregnant during your period. You may ask ,'How can ? '
It did occur to some girls .There are in fact no safe days. If you don't want to get pregnant, you should take the pill or after morning pill after sex within 72 hours( the earlier the better)or use condoms which can also prevent the spread of STD's.
When the men is aroused and excited, the penis can secrete pre ejaculation fluid and they contained some amount of sperms and lubricants. You can still get pregnant if you use the withdrawal method.
Some teens thought that after having unprotected sex, they cannot get pregnant by washing their private parts or douching, drink plenty of water and pee a lot.Some think that by jumping up and down and exercising or 'sperm dancing', the sperms will fall out from their bodies.
As parents, we should teach our children about contraception's and how to prevent pregnancy and STD's. In school , they may learn only the physiological aspects but not the morality of sex.
It is better to arm them with the right knowledge because you cannot stop them from having pre marital sex. No matter how good your intentions are, those youngster with raging hormones will not listen to you about abstinence .
Reference and thanks to :-
http://tnp.sg/news/story/0,4136,203618,00.html?
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Mothers -in- laws (MIL )is the chief causes of divorce. There are good , bad and ugly MIL's but those ugly MIL's are more prevalent in our society.
No matter how good or kind those MIL's are, no two women can live in the same house. A ship cannot have two captains. A man cannot have two women in his heart or home. He will either choose one or the other. If he is married, he would be wise to choose his wife.
If he still favours his mother , he is considered a child husband for he still has those apron strings tied to his mother. A man's viewpoints maybe different from a woman .His continue loyalty to his mother can be a cause of friction with his wife.
A good MIL will not interfere in their marriage but will only give them support and understandings. A bad MIL will want to seek control of them and want them to follow her ways.
The world has changed and the new generations have their own ways of doing things. A wise MIL would allow them to make their own mistakes and learn by themselves.
In the Bible, it says that you should leave your parents when you get married. I believe this is the best solution if you do not want to have MIL's problems. You should not stay under the same roof.You do not want her to influence her son or to control your marriage.You should be allowed to make the decisions that will affect your life. Your MIL's should never interfere and force you to follow her ways.
If you cannot afford to live on your own and need to stay with the MIL , God help you ! You would be sleeping on a bed of nails and walking on eggshells every day.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://news.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Malaysia/Story/A1Story20090526-144030.html
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Love and sex is the glue that binds our marriage. A marriage that has plenty of love but no sex may still survive but it is not as fulfilling as having both. A marriage that is based on sex alone without love will not last.
When is your best passionate sexual decade can only be told by those who have lived through the ages. Everyone is unique and may not share the same perspective.
When you are in your teens , you think like a teen , when you are in your 20's ,30's 40's ,50's ,60's ,you will think differently and have a different perspective of life.
Women may be physically matured at the age of 16 or 17 and where most can vie to be beauty queens.However their mental maturity is slower and they are still teens .
With their physical peak and surplus energies ,they may engage actively in sex and boink like rabbits.It is the age where they want to find out all about sex .
It is a matter of practice and the techniques and skills would follow afterwards.
They maybe good in the physical aspects of love making but lack the depth of emotional and mental stimulation's of love and caring which their young and inexperience partners cannot provide.
They may have little knowledge or information or are inhabited with the wrong ideas or concepts about sex. Most of those young men do not understand about woman's sexualities and they are rather selfish and only wanted to satisfy themselves.
During the 30's and 40's when it is the age of having kids, raising them and hectic work schedules, sex is put on the back burners. Sex becomes a duty and a chore for her .For she is too tired and does not have the the mental inclinations to enjoy it.
For some women , her sexual peak is around 35 when she is neither too young or too old and she is more matured and experience .She would have shed most of her inhibitions or hangups about sex and will be able to know what she wants and enjoys.
The best sexual era is when you are in your 20's and in your 50's where you are free of those responsibilities of a married life. The earlier one will feel the physical satisfaction while the latter one will feel the emotional satisfactions.
Sex can only improve with age and practice and where there is love, sex will be beautiful and the elixir of life.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1189064/What-YOUR-best-sex-decade-Five-women-reveal-age-lives-passionate.html
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A cougar is a term to denote an older women who dates a younger and energetic man who could be her son's age.The term originated in Vancouver, British Columbia, as a older women who would go to bars and go home with whoever was left at the end of the night. She is a predatory woman who hunts for those young men to invigorate their sexual vitality and prowess.
Madonna, Demi Moore and Halle Berry are leading the way with those younger 'cubs.'Those women are at their peak, financially stable and mentally independent and what else can perk up their life except a younger, virile and handsome male.They would make the perfect match for those alpha women.
The conventional couple is an older men dating a younger women or someone who could be their daughter's age. This used to be the prerogative of the males but no more.
Women of today have attained the same status as men and the playing field has been leveled. Older women find younger men are more appealing to them than men of their same age while men of the same age are looking for younger women.
With such a scenario, women who seek men of their same age will find them a rarity or extinct like those dinosaurs. Either they will grow old and lonely or live to the new challenge that is thrown their way.
The new world order has set new precedences with the cougars going after the cubs . It is much easier to handle a cub and teach him all those tricks . The young cub is no match for those experience cougars.
Women of today do not have to evaluate whether a man is a good provider or not or need to take care of them. They hold the new found power in their hands. Those who discover this secret will get to fulfill their life's.
Middle age women are hotter than middle age men. If they take care of their appearances, they can be sexy , attractive and in control of their life and situation. If they are married to an older men , the men may control their destinies.
What about the age differences?
Some couples can communicate and get along with each other very well.It is their love for each other which makes the world go round. They have youth , experience,financial stability and the maturity to cope with all the problems in life.
A woman is never old,, she only ages like very fine wine.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://abcnews.go.com/Primetime/Health/Story?id=731599
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/2449931/Women-who-prefer-toyboys.html
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Those words and feelings are stuck at your throat or inside your heart. You do not know if it is better to swallow it back or to throw them out. It is a big dilemma.
You have a crush on your friend and it is crushing you and each day the weight becomes more and more unbearable. You cannot eat and sleep well and it affects your peace and tranquility.
To love somebody in secret or from a far distance can be painful and pathetic.
What can you do?
It can be shameful, heartbreaking and sad when our love is not accepted. We could feel contemptible and ridiculed for having those thoughts. Perhaps even being scorned for secretly admiring and loving someone who do not even know that we existed.
You have a crush on a friend and not telling him/her can build up tremendous pressures inside of you . Your head is spinning and your heart is swirling to the whirlpool that has been created. On and on , it spins faster and faster and there seems no way you can get out from those strong swirling currents .
To tell and risk rejections and end of your dreams or keep those sweet feelings under wrap tightly and shut?
The story may end with a ' happily ever after 'or could send you to a place where hell freezes over.
The moment may have arrived for you to declare your feelings to him/her and if you did not ,the opportunity may not strike again . S/he could be gone from your world as you dither and only toyed with that idea in your mind. The fear of rejection is too strong and it paralyzed your thoughts.
You will need to learn to overcome those fears of rejections and boldly tell him/her what is in your heart. You will need to find an answer to your question quickly rather than let yourself be stuck in a timeless black hole in space.
It would be better to know if there is a realistic chance of you getting together with him/her or not and if it is then you can either move on with your life or start to build your life together.
The journey of a 1000 miles begin with the first step. If you cannot take the first step, then you might as well forget about her/him.
Think with your head and not your heart. If she/he rejects you , treat it like water off a duck's back.After a few rejections , your hide will get thicker and you will one day succeed by finding the right one for you.
All men have faced rejections one way or the other and it is a part of life.You need to take your chances. If you have never tried, how would you know the results?
Related topic :-
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/mysun/2449120/Got-a-secret-crush-on-a-pal.html
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"Buy one ! Free one !
Buy one second hand car , get one,two or three scooters FOC !
Marry a divorcee with children and get an instant family thrown in. The divorcee comes with a baggage and you will have to accept the whole package . You cannot pick and choose what you want.
When love is in the air, nothing else matters. You just want to be together, share and enjoy each other.When there is love, everything can 'kautim.'(No problemo).
The problem only surfaces when the honeymoon period is over and you get a big headache and wonder why you got into this kind of situation.
Initially, you may have some problems with the kids who may not take a liking to you for replacing their father or mother's place in their hearts. It will require some cajoling, threats and bribery to win them over to your sides.
You would also have to deal with their ex's because of the children who come and go between their divorced parents. For the females,there is the fear that he may want to return back to his ex wife.
His ex wife could make his life unbearable by limiting or cutting off access to the kids. It can be a hassle if he has to resort to the courts.
Having an instant family can strain your financial resources to the limit if you are not wealthy enough to support them .If you are not strong financially , you should not get involved with her .
Your love boat will not go far and you will fight daily and the boat will sink midway. The same mistakes you made in the first marriage will come back to haunt you.
A female divorcee may accept any man as a stop gap measure when she is drowning in her sorrows and financial constraints.She does not have much of a choice.She is no more on two salaries and everything has to be downgraded.
Half is better than none.She is like a drowning person clutching at straws. Life can be very tough for her.She may have to give up all those luxuries of life to lead a simpler life.
If she has the ability to support herself and children , it can be quite stressful as a single parent but she will manage it somehow. Being close to their parents can help elevate their hardships.The grandparents can help to take care of her kids while she works.
If you love the divorcee, you will have to love the child too or it will be a thorn in your marriage .There are sometimes cases where the women loves the men but close an eye to the sufferings of her child .Those men abuse their children and sometimes end in death. It is a tragedy when that happens.
This post was written after reading Lisalicious post in her blog .
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Oh! For the love of this great looking and witty soul ,I cannot stop thinking and dream of him always. He has stolen my heart and I think he has etched his name on it and my heart now only belongs to him and no other.
My heart and body tingles excitedly at the very thought of your name . Those kisses still lingers softly on my lips and those wonderful and pleasing words are singing and dancing melodiously in my heart.
Everywhere I go ,I see his face among the crowds .He beckons to me and calls out my name.Every breath I take, I can feel his presence. I am so breathless and my heart is aching and longing to be in his arms again .
Time stood still. My heart pines for you and will be in body,spirit and soul with you till eternity comes.
We see something beautiful and want to possess it.It is like the frog in the well being in love with the moon.The frog can see the moon's reflections on the water and have beautiful and loving dreams.
You can dream and fantasize about someone but you should know what is reality and fantasy. A married man has lots of baggage and he cannot be free like a single unmarried man.
When you see him from far, it is always beautiful and lovely and you worship and put him on a pedestal ,like a golden statue of God . When he comes near, you see he has got feet of clay and a mortal being.
Related topic:-
http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/aunt_sally/article663191.ece
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Parting is such sweet sorrow. No one wants to leave if they are contented and happy.
Why did Tom Cruise leave Nicole Kidman for Penelope, and Brad Pitt leaving Jennifer Aniston for Angelina?
Are they not very gorgeous alpha females? What does Penelope and Angelina have that Nicole and Jennifer lacked?
For the ordinary plain Jane's, what is it that keeps the men from leaving them ? Can her beauty alone stop him from leaving her? She will definitely need more than just her beauty to make him stay with her.Even 30 year's old marriages may break up. So what went wrong ? It could probably be another younger women in his life.
In a family , it is usually the women who runs the show. The men could be just the breadwinner and help her out a bit. He is incomplete without her.He does not do much household chores but the little he did , he would want to announced to the whole world and want lots of compliments and hugs from his wife.
A wise women would subtly let her man think that he is running the show. She acts in such a way that she is appearing to be subservient to him while unbeknown to him , she is controlling the events in their life.
If she bosses him around,it would show up his dependency upon her . He was brought up to believe that the man is the head of the household. There is a conflict of interest and he feels he cannot measure up to her .He will begin to think ,"Why did he get into such a state of affairs?"
She is too good or too much for him and whatever he does will not satisfy her.He may get loads of criticisms and complaints daily and replayed again and again like a broken down DVD player.Nag ,nag and more naggings from her. How can he feel good about being with her when he is treated that way ?
He feels inadequate, unappreciated and devalued in his eyes. He wants to be the King in his own castle but the Queen is all too powerful.Her wants and needs are insatiable and her insecurities are driving him insane.
I have personally witnessed this loving couple who stayed together . She is always appreciative of her husband's sacrifices, understands him and seldom complaints.She works hard to supplement their incomes and seldom criticize him for his faults.
Even though they were just average income earners , she did not ask for any luxuries and live a simple life helping and serving her husband. The husband is a very lucky man to have such a wife.
The main reasons why men leave is because they cannot get what they wanted from their marriage. They are being put down,taken for granted,not understood,not appreciated, unloved ,no respect,no compassion's, too controlling,too restrictive,incessant demands, no sex or unsatisfactory sex,wife have changed,no more spark,no passions, aggressive like man.. etc.
If the men leave, it is not because you have failed in your duties but the men are expecting too much from you too.They have too high hopes , dreams and fantasy's and they get bored with one woman.
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There are those who believed in premarital sex and those who don't. Today , many are involved in premarital sex and it is the norm except for those deeply religious type who abstains from premarital sex. Finding a virgin these days maybe like looking for a needle in a haystack...LOL!
It depends on who you are , where you are and your attitude and perspective on sex. Some may do it on the first date while others on the 3rd or 5th or 6th date or only in marriage.
There are the pro's and the con's about having sex too fast or too slow. No two persons are the same and the results maybe different in each case.You need to remember that men and women are not the same and they do not think alike.What is on your mind may not be the same as on his mind.
You may see it from your feminine perspectives but he being a masculine cannot see yours.You need to verbalize it together and get each others point of views to really understand why he does not act the way he should according to your perceptions of him.
If you are into casual sex, then it does not matter to you about the timing ,because you will follow your instincts and intuitions about sleeping with that guy. It could be a one night stand or a long affair which can lead to a serious relationship.
If you like him a lot and he does the same , then love may blossoms and you will find yourself attracted to him.
One thing will let to another and ending up in bed together becomes a natural progression.
When love is in the air, everything becomes so beautiful. Some girls will melt and yield to the seductive forces employed by those dudes. When she falls in love with him , she is like a speeding train with no brakes.
If he knows how to press her right buttons, she will be his for his takings. That is why those Casanova's who are very skillful in the art of seductions will get their victims.
They have the gift of the gab , the time and the manners to impress their victims. Being handsome maybe an added bonus but it is not very important.
As long as you can feel his love and commitment to you in your relationship, be it earlier or later ,sleeping with him would have less risk and pain. Otherwise, you would feel cheap , used and dirty for sleeping with that scoundrel who will disappear from your life.
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"Dare to take it up , dare to put it down !"
That is what people say when you dare to have an affair but dare not admit to it.
What a coward! You want to do your funny business behind your wife's back but dare not own up to it.
If you had given much thought and depth to that siren you would not have hurt your wife and children and put them through those mental tortures .It is always sweet at first but the aftermath can be very bitter and putrid. It stinks to high Heaven!
Sometimes , it is not just the man's fault alone. The women too may have contributed to his problems.
Some Women cannot see their own mistakes and is not aware that she is partly at fault or contributed to his problems.A camel cannot see his own humps.
She see's herself as an angel and have been wronged. It takes two hands to clap to make a sound.
Now the chicken has come back to roost and you are going to pay for your sins.
She was very brave to go to her lover's house and confronted him. Hell has no fury like a woman scorned! She went like a hurricane and caused a big havoc in his house and he shivered like a scared mouse hiding in his hole.
What a shame! The man did not meet her straight on and discussed the issue together in this three sided affair. He should be man enough to own up to his doings.
They should find a solution to that tangled mess and take the bitter medicine.
Luckily for him , his wife stood by him and did not divorce him. She thought more of her children's welfare than her own .
She was unselfish and decided to tough it out. Yeah! She is the old fashion type who would not give up her marriage that easily come rain or shine.
Young woman , grow up and be smarter. Don't get cheated by those sly old man who promised you Heaven and Earth.They are only using you for their own ends and nothing more.
I hope, there won't be any strange woman who come a knocking on your doors in the middle of the night.She could be the devil in disguise ...LOL!
Reference and thanks to :-
http://tnp.sg/news/story/0,4136,202700,00.html?
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She had it all, sexy curves, long blond hair and a gorgeous figure. Many women would be envious of her exquisite beauty and she was in great demand as a model.
But beneath those flawless exterior , lives another person . She felt she was a man trapped in a girl's body.
The urge to be her real self and who she was manifested and she surrendered to those callings.
She went to a gender expert and was confirmed a transsexual or a transgendered.
She got weary of fighting against those waves of emotional, psychological and mental onslaughts in her mind and body and succumbed to it.
Her resistance finally crumbled and she finally showed her true colours of her sexuality.
The 31 year's old decided to take the plunge and at last found the peace and transquility in her heart.
It was the only right decision which made her felt like a complete person.
Now she can be who he is .There will be no more hypocrisy and pretensions of who she is. Thus began his life as a man in the new world.
As the reconstruction of the social engineering of her body from a female to a male, her outlook began to change. He began to like men more than women.
She had to remove her 32C boobs and self inject the male hormones , testosterone for all her life .She underwent the sex change operations ,a phalloplasty and had a hysterectomy.
From a very beautiful girl into a handsome man but her eyebrows are feminine looking instead of masculine.Perhaps, old habits die hard.
Sometimes,the transsexuals maybe confused and can alternate between being a male and female when certain occasion arises.
Some of them may become straight again some where down the road and chose to revert back to their original sex.
Whatever they are, they will have no regrets and will live life to the fullest.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/real_life/article2440594.ece
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These days everything is possible and with girls out of their parental controls, are doing what the adults are doing.The age of sex is going lower and lower .
She is one hell of a smart kid who learned the fast way about the lessons in life.
What was her motive in getting involved in this sleazy business ?
Perhaps she came from that kind of background and to her it was just normal and part and parcel of life.
While many were doing it for free with their boyfriends or men in general , she was raking in the money
and would have been very rich if not for that teacher and the police who investigated the child and discovered her nefarious activities on the weekends. Even her parents were unaware of her illicit activities.
She did not splash all of those illegal money about her but kept most of them in the loft and her parents did not suspect anything was amiss.
Who can blame her for what she was doing?
She is only 15 and already too wise and matured for her age. During the week days she is an innocent and straight student but during the weekends her life becomes electrified.
She works for a social escort agency which is another name for prostitution. She went to those hotels to meet up with those men and have sex with them.
We are not sure if she was coerced or groomed for that job. There are syndicates which trapped such young girls to prostitute for them
How did she come to be involved with this sordid business?
Surely she did not discover it herself but probably had a friend who introduced her to this lucrative job. For her kind was in great demand in the market. In two months she netted a cool £14K.
The authorities have confiscated the money and we don't know if it is the rightful thing to do. She did not steal those money but was involved in a trade.
You could call it prostitution but it was a deal between two willing parties and it should not be against the law.
I think it is a disgrace for the government to take her money after all she earned it . Her parents should engage a counsel to sue for her rights.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/news/2273381/Hooker-aged-15-on-14000.html
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Either by choice or by circumstances , some women will never be mothers in their life on this Earth.
There are some who craved for a child but are barren and cannot conceive. Some have tried the IVF method and is blessed with twins or triplets.For many childless couples, this is the last resort to have conception.
There are some who wanted to have babies but cannot find any right men as their partners. Some became lesbians and inseminated themselves with donated sperms
There is a 66 year old who became a mother recently .Did she suddenly discovered the mysteries of life ?
Some sane and healthy working women have chosen not to have children.
It is their choice but why do they do that ?
Isn't motherhood and children will make us a complete woman and allow us to find fulfillment ?
Without children , you will grow old alone and will never understand what is it like being a mother and a grandmother .
Do you have a purpose and meaning in life if you cannot experience motherhood ?
You may adopt others but the reality is , they are not the same or as good as having giving birth to your own . You carried him for nine months inside your body .
How can one think of not wanting to be a mother when it is the natural process which God created us for the preservation of mankind?
Women who chose not to have children may have mental roadblocks . They may fear the pain of childbirth or heard of stillborn children.Some of them may think , having children can be a drawback in their careers. They cannot focused on their careers .
Children can be a distraction and an encumbrance and they may feel that they are not made to be good mothers.
Unless you are married and have children , your maturity will forever be on a plateau. Those unmarried ,middle age and childless women will appear to be less mature than those married mothers.
If you have never been a mother, you will never know what is it like being a mother and you would not understand why your mother treated you that way.
We think that the single middle age women without a child would make much headway in the office but a new research found that bosses distrust those women who do not want children. They think it is weird for a women not to have children.
Mothers are more normal and bring a sense of humanity to the work place. Though there are drawbacks to working mothers, the overall picture is, they are more trustworthy and reliable than those single women.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1185128/Why-bosses-right-distrust-women-dont-want-children--VERY-outspoken-mother-ex-boss.html
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Whatever new research which shows that men are smarter than women ,we should take it with a grain of salt.Those I.Q test, designed by men are gender biased and cannot accurately decide whether men are smarter and more intelligent than women. It is skewed towards those men .
Though men and women grow up side by side, yet women face many discrimination's and unfair practices in the patriarchal society. Bearing this in mind, the different stereotype gender roles were assigned to each sex.
When she grows out of her teens ,she began to have maternal thoughts of children and emotional attachment to partners. Women had to develop housekeeping or social responsibilities,while the men were freed from this activities.
The preoccupations with her social responsibilities of being a female caused her to divert her limited resources from focusing on any solitary project in any given special field. That is why we see most of those men excel in certain specialized fields .
It is quite a funny thing that most of those researches are carried out by the men and not by women . Seldom do we find researches that are done by women.
Are the men under threat and must do research often to prove that they are smarter than women?
Maybe, the women already knew the answer a long time ago or could not be bothered with that fact.
Let them believe that they are smarter.
Men are more logical , rational and saner than women because they are simple and uncomplicated like women. . Many men can attest to that. Women do not use logic but more of their intuitions when they try to solve problems. Blame it on their hormones or PMS....LOL!
Men may have higher I.Q's than women but women know that they can control the men by twinning them around her little fingers. Having higher I'Q does not mean that one is smarter or cleverer.
Look at the present enrollments in the higher institutions of learning . There is almost 60% to 70% of the under graduates are females in many parts of the world. This growing trend can be disturbing as they would be an imbalance
The females are excelling in the same fields as the men and are even better than the males by being the top of the class. Given the same conditions , the female intelligence is on par with the male or sometimes better.
Men and women are different and we may have different skills and some similar skills which can complement each other.
What is intelligence anyway?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/4183166.stm
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Her body is there but her mind is elsewhere. You will know when you look into her face ,eyes and her body language .
How many men open or close their eyes when they have sex ?They are so busy boinking away and feeling like they are in Heaven.
Some men have eyes but they don't see . They are blind like those night owls and they don't give a damned whether they are sleeping with some cold corpse or a living thing.
What they want is to quickly shoot their load and get over with it. It is their base and animal instincts which comes to the fore.
His brain is switched off and he turns into an animal. He becomes another person totally, the strange being that comes out from his dark side.
The journey to sexual pleasure is littered with potholes. To have sexual bliss is almost impossible . Too many disturbing thoughts goes through her mind while she is in the act of sex.
How can she enjoy sex when her mind is not fully in it? There is no passion and the sex is just tepid or bland.
Those men will need to have telepathic powers to read what is going on in her mind. Many thoughts goes through her mind. She could be thinking of many things which are unrelated to sex .
Her mind cannot relax and she will be continuously distracted from concentrating on the job.
She could be thinking and worrying about the kids,if the door is locked, making too much noise, her job problems,unpaid bills, what to eat , things to buy or what to do tomorrow.. etc." Why don't he quickly cum and finish the job,because I want to go to sleep."
Other women could be thinking or fantasizing making love to their ex's or their fav actors or singers or that handsome hunk down the road.
Then, there are others who cannot think and their minds are just blank and lie down like a corpse and want to quickly finish it by faking orgasms like some zombies.
They treat it like a chore or duty . Their men could be boring ,selfish and stingy in their love and attentions. They deserve what they get.
The men should invest more time and effort to woo their partners if they want to enjoy sex together and the women should not think of anything else during sex except sex itself.
Unfortunately , many men stopped their wooing after they got married and take her for granted.
Related topics :-
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Lifestyle/Relationships/Man-Woman/What-not-to-think-during-sex/articleshow/4513574.cms
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When you first set out into the world, after you have graduated from the university ,you will have high ideals about your plans and dreams of how you want to live your life.
Being better educated than their mothers, they would like to improve on their mother's lifestyle.
Many would not want to follow in their mother's footsteps. Even their mothers do not want their daughters to follow theirs.
Each of us have aspirations and plans
for our future.
We want to get married ,have children, a wonderful husband , a beautiful home , a promising career and those are the things we want to seek in our life .We want to have it all , combining motherhood and a successful career.
We hurled headlong into the fray in search of our dreams but those lofty ideals are no where in sight. Some could not even touch the first base .Many may dream until their hair turns white.
Only a few will get to realize their dreams , while the majority will find their ideals out of their reach.
What we get is a jumble and a mix and match of all those dreams. We muddle through our life as best as we can , children , husband, career and home.
The arrangement may not be the most ideal but as working mothers and breadwinners, what more can women they do ?
The most idealistic situation would be to revert back to the traditional gender roles and this is where women would find their fulfillment as a wife and a mother .
Some women have given up their promising careers to be full time house wife when their children are young.
The children are more important than their careers. This is the time when you will experience only once in your life time and see your children growing up.
You share in their joys and pains of growing up. It is an experience where no amount of money can buy.
This opportunity only happens once in your life time.That is what makes life more interesting and worthy of living.
They may have to downgrade their lifestyles but they will find their life's is more enriching and enjoyable. They will have more time , more fun and are more relax .
When you are on the fast lane , everything just passes you by and by the time you realize what you are doing , you would have lost the purpose and meaning of life. You are just another clog in the big machine and nothing more.
Your children will grow up and leave the nest and fly far away and your husband is like a stranger to you and would probably have a secret family behind your back.
Women may have won more freedom and liberation's but this freedom comes at a price . They cannot be at two places at the same time.
The trouble with today's working women, two-thirds of females said they worked out of necessity and not by choice.
What happened to her brain, her life, her ambitions, her dreams ?
If she continues on the same path in her career, she may find emptiness and no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
What is the meaning of life ?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://entertainment.timesonline.co.uk/tol/arts_and_entertainment/tv_and_radio/article6301059.ece
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Guys go for looks while girls look for security.Girls want to marry rich guys who can provide them a good life.
The female of the species would want a good home, a good life and a good husband. Whether she will find this man or not will depends on her destiny.
When she is young , she will love anyone who will love her.As she gets more matured, she will not simply love anyone for love's sake. She knows that love cannot survive on just bread and water alone.
In this age, some girls would look for the 5 C's, Car, Condo, Cash, Card and Country club. This is a materialistic world.
If you have the 5 C's , you will attract the most beautiful girls and if you do not , then they are out of your league.
In the olden days , their parents would match make them to those scions of the rich and famous.
Ever since then ,the females would be on the look out for the best men they can lay their hands on.
Even in the animal kingdom, the females of some species will only follow the males if they are strong and can protect and provide for them
They are seeking for a strong genes in the men so that their offspring's are strong , intelligent and healthy.
Men and women have their strengths and weaknesses. Each will have their own priority lists.
For the men, it could be beauty ,personality and character,loving, share the same values, companionship, able to cook, take care of the home and have children.
For the women , foremost is security,emotional security, financial security,honesty,sense of humour, manners,affectionate, kind, considerate, trust, love, devotion, best friend,great companion ,smart, intelligent and the list goes on....
It will not be easy finding such a man and in the end, they will have to lower their qualification bars to get hitched.
Many girls in those poor 3rd world countries become mail order brides to get away from their poverty at home.For these girls it is money first and love second. They get married to old men or those invalids who cannot find a wife in their own country.
They do not have a choice, marry any Tom ,Dick or Harry and accept their destiny.
If you are rich and can afford me , I will be your bitch and do whatever you want.Some may discover their pot of gold when those men really love and care for them. Others may find themselves at the gate of hell.
They are women and they will have to meet their destiny's.Life goes on.
Reference and thanks :-
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/448808/top_13_things_women_want_in_a_man.html?cat=41
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