It is so hard to understand men or is it women! Sighs! We all know men and women are not the same and they don't think on the same wave length.When faced with the same incident,men and women will react differently.
There are major physiological and psychological differences between the sexes.The sooner we realize the differences, the better we will know how to accept and understand the man's behaviour.
Let us peek into a man's brain and see what goes on inside of them.
Not all men may think alike but generally , there are many issues which they do agree upon. It is better for them to stop their thoughts before it gets out from their mouth and start a world war.
There are some things men don't tell women.They would rather keep quiet and hold the peace then saying out their opinions. Only those unwise would commit these faux paux.
Some women have a constant need to stay in touch with their men to show that they are thinking of him or care for him. They want to know what their men are doing and whether they are thinking the same things about them in return. They would want to satisfy their curiosity about what he is doing , what's on his mind and where he is at the moment .
Generally men are not good at long conversations over the phone .They would rather prefer short and to the point conversations and not talk about the weather or other irrelevant things or girlish talks over the phone. This action by the women can be irritating and sometimes frivolous to him but he cannot express his frustrations because it would hurt her feelings.
Women love shopping and it can be a good therapy for them when they are unhappy.Some women are just 'spend happy .'Sometimes , they can go overboard and rake up huge monthly bills and cause a blow out with their men.
Women are now working and spending their own money .As long as she stays within her limits, there will be no outbreak of hostilities.However,tensions may simmer underneath his exterior and this may affect the relationship.
Another area is her physical well being. Men secretly expect their women to be sexy all the time .They cannot tell their women that they are fat and need to reduce weight or their clothes look awful.
Women have to mix and match their clothes, accessories daily and being bombarded with those choice questions every time she does that is troublesome for him. He would just say anything she decides would be fine with him and would be of no help to her.
He would not want to tell her to be more conservative about her dressings or being too sexy when they go out. Before marriage, he likes you to be sexy but after marriage, he wants you to cover up. Or it could be the opposite way.
He does not like the idea of other men ogling at his women.Similarly, he cannot tell her to be more circumspect in her work place.He may think she is acting way off when speaking to other men but he is forced to hold his tongue.
He may have problems but he would not want to tell her about it and add to her worries. Women worry about anything and everything.
Why burden her and make her suffer the pain? He is better off drowning his problems with the boys at the watering hole. He is told to leave his work related problems at his work place and not to take it back home .
Men do not really tell the truth when it comes to her cooking.They may not like it but they have to pretend to enjoy it for her sake. She puts so much effort into it and it would be a sin to tell her that it taste like aaagh!
There are so many things a man does not want to tell his wife. They don't like their wife to clean and rearrange their things,to go shopping with them, to help them clean the house,to go out with her friends,the amount they spend on the phone or in front of the T.V .
If there is love, everything will be fine.
“Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back.”
~Arthur Rubinstein
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.canadianliving.com/relationships/love/things_men_want_to_tell_women__but_dont.php
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Women can have it all, career and family but what about the men ? We seldom hear about how the modern lifestyle have affected the men.Are the men able to cope with the extra workload ? Will they be torn between their careers and the children ?
With women working in greater numbers , who is left in charge of the children? The men are pushed more and more into playing the female gender roles like taking care of the children , house chores and cooking.The gender roles are no more distinct and has blurred.More and more men are now involved in the domestic routine and childcare responsibilities.
If you are a man with a working wife, you will be hard pressed to accommodate both work and family life in your schedule. You are expected to pull your weight in the family unlike your father or grandfather who never did those jobs in the house.You do not have a choice unless you are rich enough to hire maids to do those jobs.
The result is that modern men feel pulled in every direction. The women is able to multi task while the men are bewildered. A woman may spend 24/7 with the children but let the man have the child for 1 hour and he will go bonkers and quickly send a S.O.S to his wife.A man is not made like a woman .
The modern men will have to bring home the bacon while at the same time ensuring they're an intrinsic part of their children's lives.
For a man , career is very important . They are in a dilemma whether to stay at work late to protect their job, or rush home to do their share of childcare as their wife expects?
Before a man marries, he has two choices. To marry a working wife or a full time housewife? He will have to weigh the pro's and con's .
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1195315/Exhausted-guilt-ridden-torn-career-children-No-YOU-girls-Having-harder-men.html
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Men find the homely shape of the girl-next-door more appealing than the 'perfect' proportions of models and centerfolds, a study found.
Women come in all shapes and sizes,curvy ,hourglass figure (Cola bottles) ,skinny size 'zero's (walking stick),athletic types , long-legged, big-chested 'Barbies',plumb(oil drum)and slim.
For the average male, they do not have high aspirations of looking for a 'perfect female.' An average female with the statistics, a 5ft 4in ,30in waist and 40in hips and who wears a size 14.
I believed that the face and the eyes are the most important features of a person because it can reveal the emotions or the soul of a person. The other parts of the body are rather static and cannot exhibit any or have limited emotions.
Her face and smile may launch a thousand ships and you will always remember her face and her smile which will never change even when she ages. It is the face that you will like and grow fond off as time elapsed.
Women should smile more often ,as a smile can brighten and make her face pleasant,captivating, beautiful and younger looking.A beautiful face is a thing of beauty but has no depth unless it is accompanied by a corresponding beautiful smile.
An average girl with an average face can be beautiful too when she smiles sweetly as the beauty that originates from the inside is sweeter than a smile that is only skin deep.Her personality will shine through her face.
She may not capture his attention on first look but her smile will surely melt his heart. The joy and the smile on her face is the most beautiful thing to admire and cherish.It warmth's the heart and creates those lovely feelings towards the smiler.
If you have an average figure, there is nothing to fret about. If a man loves you , he would be blind to your faults and whether you are skinny or fat, it would not matter to him at all.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,25620551-5006007,00.html
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1192142/Gentlemen-prefer-Miss-Average-The-perfect-centrefold-body-ousted-homely-shape-girl-door-new-study.html
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We often read news about police busting those private group sex parties being held in those hotels or private rented homes in Malaysia. This could be just the tip of the iceberg. There maybe more private sex parties that are being held and it is occurring more often or widespread than we know.
Many of these group sex are well organized and hidden from our knowledge. We may not even know if the person next to us is involved or not.
A survey found that the Australian women are as keen as men to take part in consensual group sex and they initiate it often.This must come as a shocking news as the women like it as much as the men!I guess, it is harder to satisfy a woman than a man and that is why they prefer more of those group sex.
Most of those participants are couples and not singles. They participate together with other couples and what is sauce for the goose is also source for the gander.
Many of us may not have participated in consensual group sex and do not know the pleasures derived from it.Some will not even think of it because of their religious faith. We can only fantasize about sleeping with some others partner...LOL!
The most common reasons given for group sex are excitement, variety and to spice up long-term relationships.Whether it can spice up the long term relationship or destroy it is anybody's guess.
I am sure there will be jealousy and bruised ego's all around especially the women who are more emotional and petty minded.Some will have regrets because they were pressured into it or being impaired with alcohol or drugs.Alcohol and drugs would be freely available to let loose their inhibitions .
Sex with the same partner may not be the same anymore because the other women may have better bodies and she will have inferiority complex about it.
The most common form of group sex is a threesome, although one third of respondents say their largest group involved five or more people.Some may only engage once and stop while others may do it weekly or monthly .
It maybe a few minutes or hours of fun but it will be a lifetime of bitterness for some. Some would say,'Life is short!You should enjoy everything under the sun .'
Is it worth it?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.news.com.au/story/0,27574,25541220-29277,00.html
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Are you beautiful? Are you rich ? Do you have what it takes to get a partner? What are the criteria for choosing a mate.
We all know that men are attracted to beauty in women and they can fall in love at first sight . The moment they set their eyes on a beautiful woman they will fall in love with her even if he does not know her .
This kind of love is only skin deep and shallow. The moment she disappears from his sight, he will forget about her unless she is very striking and impressive. It will then be etched deeply in his mind.
Women need to pay attention to their physical attractiveness if they want to keep their mates from straying.Men have roving eyes and it is impossible to stop them from ogling at other pretty women.
It may not be love but probably lust in their eyes. This is the most important and the first criteria in selecting a woman. No men want to to sleep with an ugly woman unless he is blind ,dumb or ugly . Real love is colour blind and blind to all her /his faults.
Physical attractiveness is the highest on their list.They may like a woman for her face,eyes, boobs, legs, butts or any parts of her body. The other qualities are not very important but it will be a bonus if she has, compatibility ,intelligence, sociability, common background
Some men do not fall in love on fist look but on second look when the girls showed their inner beauties and charms. Those without the 'looks' but the inner beauty will get their men.
Physical attractiveness of a man is not very important to a woman. In fact it can be a disadvantage as those men are more tempted to stray.They are not husband materials but more of a plaything. It is not about looks but manners.
Women look for the socioeconomic status of the men , having a stable job and able to provide her with financial and emotional support. Their earning powers,social status and job prestige rates highly on her priority list.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://books.google.com/books?id=BfmuYfz57-8C&pg=PA98&lpg=PA98&dq=Men+do+not+marry+women+like+these&source=bl&ots=rS-ta1N0cd&sig=UQe8OK1B3A6u3Pq77aHupU7LhMg&hl=en&ei=L9wnSvTUC8yAkQXR3fjoDQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2#PPA105,M1
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Women are attracted to confident,self assured and capable men.They are also attracted by their skills, abilities, and achievements. They maybe dominant in their chosen fields but for a long term relationship,women find it unattractive as they could be domineering in the household.
The women want someone whom she can respect and admire but who have a weak spot for them . He can protect her from outsiders or walk over them .In essence they want to have control over him .It can be so subtle that he is not being aware of it.
Men are expected to be dominant in the marriage.It has been the norm since the ages.There are dominant as well as submissive men and the same goes for women.It is finding the right type that suits you or attracted to you . Opposites may attract.
You cannot have everything in life and sometimes you have to submit to each other.Being submissive all the time can be depressing. There is no freedom and you can chaff under the yoke. It would be better if you can compromise sometimes and meet each other half way. It may not be the most ideal situation but at least it makes both of your satisfied.Give and take some .
Sometimes the women maybe the dominant partner but in the back of her mind , she may fantasize being dominated by the men.It will only remain a fantasy unless the men are pushed or received a kick in their butts.
They want dominant men but are turned off by domineering men.This sounds paradoxical. Men have a bigger ego and they do not want to lose out to their women.
Women want to be loved and cherish by strong and amicable men . A dominant men may attract her at first but if he does not know how to temper his dominance, he will lose her in the end.
If you are a submissive or vulnerable women , you would naturally be attracted to a strong and dominant man.
reference and thanks to :-
http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/articleshow/3857017.cms
http://books.google.com/books?id=BfmuYfz57-8C&pg=PA98&lpg=PA98&dq=Men+do+not+marry+women+like+these&source=bl&ots=rS-ta1N0cd&sig=UQe8OK1B3A6u3Pq77aHupU7LhMg&hl=en&ei=L9wnSvTUC8yAkQXR3fjoDQ&sa=X&oi=book_result&ct=result&resnum=2#PPA8,M1
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Oh! For the love of this great looking and witty soul ,I cannot stop thinking and dream of him always. He has stolen my heart and I think he has etched his name on it and my heart now only belongs to him and no other.
My heart and body tingles excitedly at the very thought of your name . Those kisses still lingers softly on my lips and those wonderful and pleasing words are singing and dancing melodiously in my heart.
Everywhere I go ,I see his face among the crowds .He beckons to me and calls out my name.Every breath I take, I can feel his presence. I am so breathless and my heart is aching and longing to be in his arms again .
Time stood still. My heart pines for you and will be in body,spirit and soul with you till eternity comes.
We see something beautiful and want to possess it.It is like the frog in the well being in love with the moon.The frog can see the moon's reflections on the water and have beautiful and loving dreams.
You can dream and fantasize about someone but you should know what is reality and fantasy. A married man has lots of baggage and he cannot be free like a single unmarried man.
When you see him from far, it is always beautiful and lovely and you worship and put him on a pedestal ,like a golden statue of God . When he comes near, you see he has got feet of clay and a mortal being.
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http://women.timesonline.co.uk/tol/life_and_style/women/relationships/aunt_sally/article663191.ece
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Parting is such sweet sorrow. No one wants to leave if they are contented and happy.
Why did Tom Cruise leave Nicole Kidman for Penelope, and Brad Pitt leaving Jennifer Aniston for Angelina?
Are they not very gorgeous alpha females? What does Penelope and Angelina have that Nicole and Jennifer lacked?
For the ordinary plain Jane's, what is it that keeps the men from leaving them ? Can her beauty alone stop him from leaving her? She will definitely need more than just her beauty to make him stay with her.Even 30 year's old marriages may break up. So what went wrong ? It could probably be another younger women in his life.
In a family , it is usually the women who runs the show. The men could be just the breadwinner and help her out a bit. He is incomplete without her.He does not do much household chores but the little he did , he would want to announced to the whole world and want lots of compliments and hugs from his wife.
A wise women would subtly let her man think that he is running the show. She acts in such a way that she is appearing to be subservient to him while unbeknown to him , she is controlling the events in their life.
If she bosses him around,it would show up his dependency upon her . He was brought up to believe that the man is the head of the household. There is a conflict of interest and he feels he cannot measure up to her .He will begin to think ,"Why did he get into such a state of affairs?"
She is too good or too much for him and whatever he does will not satisfy her.He may get loads of criticisms and complaints daily and replayed again and again like a broken down DVD player.Nag ,nag and more naggings from her. How can he feel good about being with her when he is treated that way ?
He feels inadequate, unappreciated and devalued in his eyes. He wants to be the King in his own castle but the Queen is all too powerful.Her wants and needs are insatiable and her insecurities are driving him insane.
I have personally witnessed this loving couple who stayed together . She is always appreciative of her husband's sacrifices, understands him and seldom complaints.She works hard to supplement their incomes and seldom criticize him for his faults.
Even though they were just average income earners , she did not ask for any luxuries and live a simple life helping and serving her husband. The husband is a very lucky man to have such a wife.
The main reasons why men leave is because they cannot get what they wanted from their marriage. They are being put down,taken for granted,not understood,not appreciated, unloved ,no respect,no compassion's, too controlling,too restrictive,incessant demands, no sex or unsatisfactory sex,wife have changed,no more spark,no passions, aggressive like man.. etc.
If the men leave, it is not because you have failed in your duties but the men are expecting too much from you too.They have too high hopes , dreams and fantasy's and they get bored with one woman.
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There are those who believed in premarital sex and those who don't. Today , many are involved in premarital sex and it is the norm except for those deeply religious type who abstains from premarital sex. Finding a virgin these days maybe like looking for a needle in a haystack...LOL!
It depends on who you are , where you are and your attitude and perspective on sex. Some may do it on the first date while others on the 3rd or 5th or 6th date or only in marriage.
There are the pro's and the con's about having sex too fast or too slow. No two persons are the same and the results maybe different in each case.You need to remember that men and women are not the same and they do not think alike.What is on your mind may not be the same as on his mind.
You may see it from your feminine perspectives but he being a masculine cannot see yours.You need to verbalize it together and get each others point of views to really understand why he does not act the way he should according to your perceptions of him.
If you are into casual sex, then it does not matter to you about the timing ,because you will follow your instincts and intuitions about sleeping with that guy. It could be a one night stand or a long affair which can lead to a serious relationship.
If you like him a lot and he does the same , then love may blossoms and you will find yourself attracted to him.
One thing will let to another and ending up in bed together becomes a natural progression.
When love is in the air, everything becomes so beautiful. Some girls will melt and yield to the seductive forces employed by those dudes. When she falls in love with him , she is like a speeding train with no brakes.
If he knows how to press her right buttons, she will be his for his takings. That is why those Casanova's who are very skillful in the art of seductions will get their victims.
They have the gift of the gab , the time and the manners to impress their victims. Being handsome maybe an added bonus but it is not very important.
As long as you can feel his love and commitment to you in your relationship, be it earlier or later ,sleeping with him would have less risk and pain. Otherwise, you would feel cheap , used and dirty for sleeping with that scoundrel who will disappear from your life.
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Either by choice or by circumstances , some women will never be mothers in their life on this Earth.
There are some who craved for a child but are barren and cannot conceive. Some have tried the IVF method and is blessed with twins or triplets.For many childless couples, this is the last resort to have conception.
There are some who wanted to have babies but cannot find any right men as their partners. Some became lesbians and inseminated themselves with donated sperms
There is a 66 year old who became a mother recently .Did she suddenly discovered the mysteries of life ?
Some sane and healthy working women have chosen not to have children.
It is their choice but why do they do that ?
Isn't motherhood and children will make us a complete woman and allow us to find fulfillment ?
Without children , you will grow old alone and will never understand what is it like being a mother and a grandmother .
Do you have a purpose and meaning in life if you cannot experience motherhood ?
You may adopt others but the reality is , they are not the same or as good as having giving birth to your own . You carried him for nine months inside your body .
How can one think of not wanting to be a mother when it is the natural process which God created us for the preservation of mankind?
Women who chose not to have children may have mental roadblocks . They may fear the pain of childbirth or heard of stillborn children.Some of them may think , having children can be a drawback in their careers. They cannot focused on their careers .
Children can be a distraction and an encumbrance and they may feel that they are not made to be good mothers.
Unless you are married and have children , your maturity will forever be on a plateau. Those unmarried ,middle age and childless women will appear to be less mature than those married mothers.
If you have never been a mother, you will never know what is it like being a mother and you would not understand why your mother treated you that way.
We think that the single middle age women without a child would make much headway in the office but a new research found that bosses distrust those women who do not want children. They think it is weird for a women not to have children.
Mothers are more normal and bring a sense of humanity to the work place. Though there are drawbacks to working mothers, the overall picture is, they are more trustworthy and reliable than those single women.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1185128/Why-bosses-right-distrust-women-dont-want-children--VERY-outspoken-mother-ex-boss.html
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Whatever new research which shows that men are smarter than women ,we should take it with a grain of salt.Those I.Q test, designed by men are gender biased and cannot accurately decide whether men are smarter and more intelligent than women. It is skewed towards those men .
Though men and women grow up side by side, yet women face many discrimination's and unfair practices in the patriarchal society. Bearing this in mind, the different stereotype gender roles were assigned to each sex.
When she grows out of her teens ,she began to have maternal thoughts of children and emotional attachment to partners. Women had to develop housekeeping or social responsibilities,while the men were freed from this activities.
The preoccupations with her social responsibilities of being a female caused her to divert her limited resources from focusing on any solitary project in any given special field. That is why we see most of those men excel in certain specialized fields .
It is quite a funny thing that most of those researches are carried out by the men and not by women . Seldom do we find researches that are done by women.
Are the men under threat and must do research often to prove that they are smarter than women?
Maybe, the women already knew the answer a long time ago or could not be bothered with that fact.
Let them believe that they are smarter.
Men are more logical , rational and saner than women because they are simple and uncomplicated like women. . Many men can attest to that. Women do not use logic but more of their intuitions when they try to solve problems. Blame it on their hormones or PMS....LOL!
Men may have higher I.Q's than women but women know that they can control the men by twinning them around her little fingers. Having higher I'Q does not mean that one is smarter or cleverer.
Look at the present enrollments in the higher institutions of learning . There is almost 60% to 70% of the under graduates are females in many parts of the world. This growing trend can be disturbing as they would be an imbalance
The females are excelling in the same fields as the men and are even better than the males by being the top of the class. Given the same conditions , the female intelligence is on par with the male or sometimes better.
Men and women are different and we may have different skills and some similar skills which can complement each other.
What is intelligence anyway?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/4183166.stm
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Her body is there but her mind is elsewhere. You will know when you look into her face ,eyes and her body language .
How many men open or close their eyes when they have sex ?They are so busy boinking away and feeling like they are in Heaven.
Some men have eyes but they don't see . They are blind like those night owls and they don't give a damned whether they are sleeping with some cold corpse or a living thing.
What they want is to quickly shoot their load and get over with it. It is their base and animal instincts which comes to the fore.
His brain is switched off and he turns into an animal. He becomes another person totally, the strange being that comes out from his dark side.
The journey to sexual pleasure is littered with potholes. To have sexual bliss is almost impossible . Too many disturbing thoughts goes through her mind while she is in the act of sex.
How can she enjoy sex when her mind is not fully in it? There is no passion and the sex is just tepid or bland.
Those men will need to have telepathic powers to read what is going on in her mind. Many thoughts goes through her mind. She could be thinking of many things which are unrelated to sex .
Her mind cannot relax and she will be continuously distracted from concentrating on the job.
She could be thinking and worrying about the kids,if the door is locked, making too much noise, her job problems,unpaid bills, what to eat , things to buy or what to do tomorrow.. etc." Why don't he quickly cum and finish the job,because I want to go to sleep."
Other women could be thinking or fantasizing making love to their ex's or their fav actors or singers or that handsome hunk down the road.
Then, there are others who cannot think and their minds are just blank and lie down like a corpse and want to quickly finish it by faking orgasms like some zombies.
They treat it like a chore or duty . Their men could be boring ,selfish and stingy in their love and attentions. They deserve what they get.
The men should invest more time and effort to woo their partners if they want to enjoy sex together and the women should not think of anything else during sex except sex itself.
Unfortunately , many men stopped their wooing after they got married and take her for granted.
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http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/Lifestyle/Relationships/Man-Woman/What-not-to-think-during-sex/articleshow/4513574.cms
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When you first set out into the world, after you have graduated from the university ,you will have high ideals about your plans and dreams of how you want to live your life.
Being better educated than their mothers, they would like to improve on their mother's lifestyle.
Many would not want to follow in their mother's footsteps. Even their mothers do not want their daughters to follow theirs.
Each of us have aspirations and plans
for our future.
We want to get married ,have children, a wonderful husband , a beautiful home , a promising career and those are the things we want to seek in our life .We want to have it all , combining motherhood and a successful career.
We hurled headlong into the fray in search of our dreams but those lofty ideals are no where in sight. Some could not even touch the first base .Many may dream until their hair turns white.
Only a few will get to realize their dreams , while the majority will find their ideals out of their reach.
What we get is a jumble and a mix and match of all those dreams. We muddle through our life as best as we can , children , husband, career and home.
The arrangement may not be the most ideal but as working mothers and breadwinners, what more can women they do ?
The most idealistic situation would be to revert back to the traditional gender roles and this is where women would find their fulfillment as a wife and a mother .
Some women have given up their promising careers to be full time house wife when their children are young.
The children are more important than their careers. This is the time when you will experience only once in your life time and see your children growing up.
You share in their joys and pains of growing up. It is an experience where no amount of money can buy.
This opportunity only happens once in your life time.That is what makes life more interesting and worthy of living.
They may have to downgrade their lifestyles but they will find their life's is more enriching and enjoyable. They will have more time , more fun and are more relax .
When you are on the fast lane , everything just passes you by and by the time you realize what you are doing , you would have lost the purpose and meaning of life. You are just another clog in the big machine and nothing more.
Your children will grow up and leave the nest and fly far away and your husband is like a stranger to you and would probably have a secret family behind your back.
Women may have won more freedom and liberation's but this freedom comes at a price . They cannot be at two places at the same time.
The trouble with today's working women, two-thirds of females said they worked out of necessity and not by choice.
What happened to her brain, her life, her ambitions, her dreams ?
If she continues on the same path in her career, she may find emptiness and no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
What is the meaning of life ?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://entertainment.timesonline.co.uk/tol/arts_and_entertainment/tv_and_radio/article6301059.ece
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Guys go for looks while girls look for security.Girls want to marry rich guys who can provide them a good life.
The female of the species would want a good home, a good life and a good husband. Whether she will find this man or not will depends on her destiny.
When she is young , she will love anyone who will love her.As she gets more matured, she will not simply love anyone for love's sake. She knows that love cannot survive on just bread and water alone.
In this age, some girls would look for the 5 C's, Car, Condo, Cash, Card and Country club. This is a materialistic world.
If you have the 5 C's , you will attract the most beautiful girls and if you do not , then they are out of your league.
In the olden days , their parents would match make them to those scions of the rich and famous.
Ever since then ,the females would be on the look out for the best men they can lay their hands on.
Even in the animal kingdom, the females of some species will only follow the males if they are strong and can protect and provide for them
They are seeking for a strong genes in the men so that their offspring's are strong , intelligent and healthy.
Men and women have their strengths and weaknesses. Each will have their own priority lists.
For the men, it could be beauty ,personality and character,loving, share the same values, companionship, able to cook, take care of the home and have children.
For the women , foremost is security,emotional security, financial security,honesty,sense of humour, manners,affectionate, kind, considerate, trust, love, devotion, best friend,great companion ,smart, intelligent and the list goes on....
It will not be easy finding such a man and in the end, they will have to lower their qualification bars to get hitched.
Many girls in those poor 3rd world countries become mail order brides to get away from their poverty at home.For these girls it is money first and love second. They get married to old men or those invalids who cannot find a wife in their own country.
They do not have a choice, marry any Tom ,Dick or Harry and accept their destiny.
If you are rich and can afford me , I will be your bitch and do whatever you want.Some may discover their pot of gold when those men really love and care for them. Others may find themselves at the gate of hell.
They are women and they will have to meet their destiny's.Life goes on.
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http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/448808/top_13_things_women_want_in_a_man.html?cat=41
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In the beginning, everything was perfect and you were boinking each other like those rabbits or monkeys.
You couldn't asked for more .
Nothing could be more perfect when you could satisfy each other's thirst for sex.
Some where down the road , things began to change and the sex was not as great as before and so too was the duration.
What are you going to do when he lost the desire for you ?
He is unwilling , unable to or what ever the reasons for his lack of interest in sex with you. You will need to find out the causes and seek the help of the professional therapist or counselors.
Women and men have different sex drives. Some have very high sex drives like a Ferrari F-1 car and others have a lower sex drive like some antique boneshaker or no sex drives at all.
It is a myth that women have a lower sex drive than the men . The women were found to want sex as much as the men or more. This was a surprising discovery in this new age.
Some men do have low sex drive because they are stressed, overworked and the lack of sleep and exercise.
The wives were too busy themselves and had no time to take care of him .He was left very much to his own devices.
They are not very fit nor healthy and eat a poor diet. How could they have a high sex drive when these important factors are neglected ?
If you want your men to be a good stud, obviously , you need to feed him on a good diet and gives him plenty of rest to recharge his batteries.
Sex is not about orgasms only but for the women to feel wanted and loved and emotionally connected.
This is why the men could not understand their wives perspectives. They thought of sex as simply a physical act of pleasure and nothing more.
Their inability to perform may hurt and affect their masculinity as they realized they are not manly enough for her . To be a man , one must be virile or they are not the man.
They withdraw into their shell like the tortoise leaving their wives feeling high and dry, isolated and lonely.
You may think that most men do not have enough of sex but in reality , many women are starved of sex too.
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http://www.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1728520,00.html
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"They say behind every great man there's a woman." Or the feminist would say," Behind every man is a great woman ."
Today, there are many women who are highly qualified and have high earnings. Their advancement in their careers is an embodiment of the modern day successful women.
Being successful ,married and having a demanding career can take a tremendous toll on her physical, psychological and mental state.
She suffers from the stress, tiredness and lack of sleep as she juggles her incessant demands of her career and home. Somewhere and something will have to break.
Her feminist ideals of managing her careers and home will be too high to attain and either one will have to suffer as she is only an ordinary mortal and not some wonder woman.
In the past, she only had to hold up half the world but compared to the present situation , she is holding up the whole world with some or little help from her man.
What profits a woman if she can own the world but loses her life ?
Is she getting the best of both worlds?
Do they derive the satisfactions and fulfillment's from their chosen careers .
Is she using the best of her abilities to enjoy a better quality life .What about their roles as mothers and wives ?
This is the dilemma of many modern ,married and working women. Women have got talents, skills and they are now better educated . With the modernizations , life's becomes more complicated , complex and confusing.
Whether they will use their given abilities to enhance their husbands careers or for themselves or their families will ultimately reward them with a happy and fulfilled life or consigned them to the lonely planet.
If they choose the right choice, they will not only be able to help their man in his career but will also have the freedom and pleasure of spending more time with their children. They will be more in tune with their inner calling as a mother ,wife and helper as God designed them to be.
Life is about balance.They need to seek a work-balance in their life .Having plenty of money or materialistic things do not enrich the quality of life and neither will guarantee you happiness.
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No man can ever understands a woman and neither can a woman understands a man.
They are both from a different planet. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. The most often quoted phrase used to denote their divergent and irreconcilable differences.
Women are just not only too confusing to a man but just as confused themselves.
They cannot really understand their own selves and how can a man understands them. They can be wishy-washy like the sands on the beaches. Each time a wave comes onshore, the landscape changes.
A 'Yes' can be a 'Yes' or a 'No' They say one thing and mean another. The head says, 'No' but the heart says. ' Yes '
Which is which ? Listen to the head or listen to the heart? Hit the right answers and you will be rewarded.
Got the wrong one's and you will be in her cooler. It is quite frustrating in this guessing game. Only through trials and errors will you sharpen you marksmanship.
Understanding a woman is not what comes out of her mouth but what is in her heart. You will need to look into her eyes and see into her heart .It is not about hearing her words but feeling her out. You need to be a psychic or have telepathic powers... LOL!
Her words are simple and plain but beware , appearance can be deceptive. What you hear is not what you get .
You not only have to sieve and analyze those words from her but must master the art of reading her body signals. Her words are like a jungle , full of booby traps , predators and Alien beings.
It is alright to ignore her words or advice sometimes but to ignore her body language would be tantamount to pressing your own self destruct button.
Adios! Hasta la vista! Babe!
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"Men often gives love for sex , women often gives sex for love ."
Love is like pouring your cup of love into her cup and when it overflows, she will pour it back into your cup.
If you want to have sex with a good woman , you will need to shower your love on her and make her feel that she is the most important person in your life.
You need to plant the seed of love and let it germinate in her heart. Water it and let the sunshine into her life before you can see her flowers bloom for you.
A man can have sex any time , anywhere and with anybody or with anything without emotions.
A woman is wired differently from a man . She has to deal with her raw and complicated emotions and the fear of pregnancy.
For her to enjoy sex, she will need to feel loved and wanted. If these conditions are not present , she will resent or hate the sex as she is no better than a paid whore or like a utensil solely for your pleasure. She feels like she is being used and taken advantage off.
With the new sexual revolution , women are freed from those age old taboos and inhibitions . It is now fair game to both the sexes.
Women loves sex as much as men does. They seldom talk about it except when they are with their own kinds.
Do women hate sex ?
Not if you know the right ingredients and to avoid all those booby traps.
If your woman hates sex, then there is something not right with you.
If you do not know how to treat a lady the right and proper way , don't blame her for hating sex. You make her feel like a slut . You either sucks or you need to register at kindergarten class.
Women do enjoy sex and she will be begging for more if you have done your homework.
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It is work,work and more work for the modern women as she is propelled headlong into her all important careers.
Time and tides waits for no man and she will soon realized that she has crossed the magical 30's and now slowly approaching the 40's.
Her body clock is ticking at a faster pace now as her other quest for a life long partner is not as successful as her career. Women pay a frightful price for their success in this new age.
The recent recession has made them realized that their careers alone may not sustain them for their whole life .
Their jobs could be in peril as those MNC's downgrade or goes bust.
Before the recession, they were too engrossed in their careers to think of marriage and did not place more emphasis on their personal life.
The tried and tested way is still the best way to get further in life. If they want a better life, they should combine marriage with career and have a win - win situation.
If anything befallen them , they could always fall back on their partners to support them . Their aged parents may not be around anymore for them to go home when the going is tough.
As today's women are much more highly qualified, finding a life long partner can be a very difficult process.
All the good, kind and rich men are already taken up,only leaving those at the bottom of the barrel for them to choose.
Compounding to this problem, the middle age men would rather marry younger girls or those lesser qualified one's or beta females.
Many would rather stay single than marry someone who is unambitious or lacks those qualities that she seeks in him.They set too high standards for themselves and priced themselves out of the marriage market.
She has to lower her sights if she wants to find a good man .It is not about finding someone who is equal or as successful as she is but looking for the right character and personality of the men.
Not all men can climb the ladder of success but they can be good consorts , bodyguards,,husband, father,boyfriend, companion all rolled into one.
If she insists on finding the men with the same success or qualifications, it will be mission impossible. We will wish her all the best of luck.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://divaasia.com/article/3462
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Though women have attained equality in the present age, the household chores and the taking care of children are still the domains of women.
Since many women are working and contributing to the finances of the family , it places undue strains to women who also have to take care of the family and home .
The modern women could be taking on too many roles and it has given rise to the term ,'Superwoman.'
She has to juggle between work and her household duties and this has created a lot of stress , pain and fatigue . Even though some can afford hired help to maintain the home , it still require her supervisions.
Women have a different and higher standards and criteria from men. Their way of doing those chores may not be compatible with each other.
At times , the women can be very fastidious and expect a certain criteria from the men . When it is not met , they will take over from their slip shod and sloppy partners.
The women in the previous generation had only to be the home maker and the separation of gender roles were very distinct unlike the present times where the boundaries are blurred.
The men may have increasingly chipped in to help in doing those traditional female roles like cooking , laundry , helping out with the care of the little tots ..etc.
Despite their willingness to help out, women still do more of the household work than their partners. They feel that they are more suited to those roles.The gender roles are no more rigid and it is not who should do this or that .
The men should be more understanding when some jobs are still unattended to as she is either too busy or too tired . He should not complain or make a scene but to help her out instead.
Women should learn how to delegate their tasks and also learn to accept that men have their ways of doing the same job albeit in a different fashion and which may not satisfy her standards.
Some men are turned off by her strict adherence to her standards only and they will not offer to lend her a willing hand in the home. Don't blame the men for not helping you out!
Live and let live!
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http://www.news.com.au/dailytelegraph/story/0,22049,25242405-5006007,00.html
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