Either by choice or by circumstances , some women will never be mothers in their life on this Earth.
There are some who craved for a child but are barren and cannot conceive. Some have tried the IVF method and is blessed with twins or triplets.For many childless couples, this is the last resort to have conception.
There are some who wanted to have babies but cannot find any right men as their partners. Some became lesbians and inseminated themselves with donated sperms
There is a 66 year old who became a mother recently .Did she suddenly discovered the mysteries of life ?
Some sane and healthy working women have chosen not to have children.
It is their choice but why do they do that ?
Isn't motherhood and children will make us a complete woman and allow us to find fulfillment ?
Without children , you will grow old alone and will never understand what is it like being a mother and a grandmother .
Do you have a purpose and meaning in life if you cannot experience motherhood ?
You may adopt others but the reality is , they are not the same or as good as having giving birth to your own . You carried him for nine months inside your body .
How can one think of not wanting to be a mother when it is the natural process which God created us for the preservation of mankind?
Women who chose not to have children may have mental roadblocks . They may fear the pain of childbirth or heard of stillborn children.Some of them may think , having children can be a drawback in their careers. They cannot focused on their careers .
Children can be a distraction and an encumbrance and they may feel that they are not made to be good mothers.
Unless you are married and have children , your maturity will forever be on a plateau. Those unmarried ,middle age and childless women will appear to be less mature than those married mothers.
If you have never been a mother, you will never know what is it like being a mother and you would not understand why your mother treated you that way.
We think that the single middle age women without a child would make much headway in the office but a new research found that bosses distrust those women who do not want children. They think it is weird for a women not to have children.
Mothers are more normal and bring a sense of humanity to the work place. Though there are drawbacks to working mothers, the overall picture is, they are more trustworthy and reliable than those single women.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1185128/Why-bosses-right-distrust-women-dont-want-children--VERY-outspoken-mother-ex-boss.html
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When you first set out into the world, after you have graduated from the university ,you will have high ideals about your plans and dreams of how you want to live your life.
Being better educated than their mothers, they would like to improve on their mother's lifestyle.
Many would not want to follow in their mother's footsteps. Even their mothers do not want their daughters to follow theirs.
Each of us have aspirations and plans
for our future.
We want to get married ,have children, a wonderful husband , a beautiful home , a promising career and those are the things we want to seek in our life .We want to have it all , combining motherhood and a successful career.
We hurled headlong into the fray in search of our dreams but those lofty ideals are no where in sight. Some could not even touch the first base .Many may dream until their hair turns white.
Only a few will get to realize their dreams , while the majority will find their ideals out of their reach.
What we get is a jumble and a mix and match of all those dreams. We muddle through our life as best as we can , children , husband, career and home.
The arrangement may not be the most ideal but as working mothers and breadwinners, what more can women they do ?
The most idealistic situation would be to revert back to the traditional gender roles and this is where women would find their fulfillment as a wife and a mother .
Some women have given up their promising careers to be full time house wife when their children are young.
The children are more important than their careers. This is the time when you will experience only once in your life time and see your children growing up.
You share in their joys and pains of growing up. It is an experience where no amount of money can buy.
This opportunity only happens once in your life time.That is what makes life more interesting and worthy of living.
They may have to downgrade their lifestyles but they will find their life's is more enriching and enjoyable. They will have more time , more fun and are more relax .
When you are on the fast lane , everything just passes you by and by the time you realize what you are doing , you would have lost the purpose and meaning of life. You are just another clog in the big machine and nothing more.
Your children will grow up and leave the nest and fly far away and your husband is like a stranger to you and would probably have a secret family behind your back.
Women may have won more freedom and liberation's but this freedom comes at a price . They cannot be at two places at the same time.
The trouble with today's working women, two-thirds of females said they worked out of necessity and not by choice.
What happened to her brain, her life, her ambitions, her dreams ?
If she continues on the same path in her career, she may find emptiness and no pot of gold at the end of the rainbow.
What is the meaning of life ?
Reference and thanks to :-
http://entertainment.timesonline.co.uk/tol/arts_and_entertainment/tv_and_radio/article6301059.ece
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It is work,work and more work for the modern women as she is propelled headlong into her all important careers.
Time and tides waits for no man and she will soon realized that she has crossed the magical 30's and now slowly approaching the 40's.
Her body clock is ticking at a faster pace now as her other quest for a life long partner is not as successful as her career. Women pay a frightful price for their success in this new age.
The recent recession has made them realized that their careers alone may not sustain them for their whole life .
Their jobs could be in peril as those MNC's downgrade or goes bust.
Before the recession, they were too engrossed in their careers to think of marriage and did not place more emphasis on their personal life.
The tried and tested way is still the best way to get further in life. If they want a better life, they should combine marriage with career and have a win - win situation.
If anything befallen them , they could always fall back on their partners to support them . Their aged parents may not be around anymore for them to go home when the going is tough.
As today's women are much more highly qualified, finding a life long partner can be a very difficult process.
All the good, kind and rich men are already taken up,only leaving those at the bottom of the barrel for them to choose.
Compounding to this problem, the middle age men would rather marry younger girls or those lesser qualified one's or beta females.
Many would rather stay single than marry someone who is unambitious or lacks those qualities that she seeks in him.They set too high standards for themselves and priced themselves out of the marriage market.
She has to lower her sights if she wants to find a good man .It is not about finding someone who is equal or as successful as she is but looking for the right character and personality of the men.
Not all men can climb the ladder of success but they can be good consorts , bodyguards,,husband, father,boyfriend, companion all rolled into one.
If she insists on finding the men with the same success or qualifications, it will be mission impossible. We will wish her all the best of luck.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://divaasia.com/article/3462
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