Your underage children having sexual affairs ?

Heaven's forbid ! No sane and rational mother would want her sweet, innocent and underage teenager to experience sex when she is not ready.

Yet, we often read of cases where girls as young as 12 or earlier are having sex and 14 or 15 years old are falling in love , having a sexual relationships with older men , who sometimes could be their father's age.

For some young teenagers, their experience into the adult world could come earlier than expected.Perceptions about sex and relationships are changing.

There will come a day when your children will grow up and start to explore about sex.It is only a matter of time whether they will do it on your time or their time.

You may have your own perceptions when is the right time for them to know about the birds and the bee's but your child may advance your time table faster than you think.

A number of factors have contributed to the teenagers being involved sexually and romantically with those available men who took advantage of their innocence.

The teenagers of today are mostly left to their own devices when both the parents have to work hard to put food on the table and to enjoy a higher standard of living.

Their preoccupations with making money , the lack of love and attentions to their children have contributed greatly to this problem.

The parents provided the necessities of life but are unable to spend much of their time with their children. As a result , the children grew up without the parent's love and attentions.

At that vulnerable age, they would gravitate to those men who showered them with much love and attentions. It could be their teachers or tutors or a relative .

At that young age, there are not ready and much too young to handle those responsibilities and consequences of their actions.They are just kids who need looking after themselves.

You may forbid her to engage in premarital sex but those words may not be effective because of their raging hormones. They do not understand what they are facing . For love and emotions are very powerful forces which is beyond their ability to understand and handle.

You cannot watch them all the time and the best thing to do is to advise her about safe sex and how not to get pregnant or get those STD's.

Sometimes , the parents may not even be aware of their teenager's illegal liaison's until it is too late, when the girl confesses that she is pregnant. There will be a lot of heartaches and pains as to whether to abort or keep the baby.

As a mother, you should observe for those tell tale signs whether she is romantically or sexually involved with another person.You need to address this problem whether there are signs or not.

Failure to notice and nip the problem in the bud would create a monster which would be harder to control.

Life is about balances. You want your daughters to grow up to be good, meaningful and successful person. Guide them in their paths and gives them all your love and attentions when they needed them.



Reference and thanks to :-

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