Showing posts with label men. Show all posts
Showing posts with label men. Show all posts

Wednesday, July 15, 2009

Why men want to tell women but don't?

It is so hard to understand men or is it women! Sighs! We all know men and women are not the same and they don't think on the same wave length.When faced with the same incident,men and women will react differently.

There are major physiological and psychological differences between the sexes.The sooner we realize the differences, the better we will know how to accept and understand the man's behaviour.

Let us peek into a man's brain and see what goes on inside of them.
Not all men may think alike but generally , there are many issues which they do agree upon. It is better for them to stop their thoughts before it gets out from their mouth and start a world war.

There are some things men don't tell women.They would rather keep quiet and hold the peace then saying out their opinions. Only those unwise would commit these faux paux.

Some women have a constant need to stay in touch with their men to show that they are thinking of him or care for him. They want to know what their men are doing and whether they are thinking the same things about them in return. They would want to satisfy their curiosity about what he is doing , what's on his mind and where he is at the moment .

Generally men are not good at long conversations over the phone .They would rather prefer short and to the point conversations and not talk about the weather or other irrelevant things or girlish talks over the phone. This action by the women can be irritating and sometimes frivolous to him but he cannot express his frustrations because it would hurt her feelings.

Women love shopping and it can be a good therapy for them when they are unhappy.Some women are just 'spend happy .'Sometimes , they can go overboard and rake up huge monthly bills and cause a blow out with their men.

Women are now working and spending their own money .As long as she stays within her limits, there will be no outbreak of hostilities.However,tensions may simmer underneath his exterior and this may affect the relationship.

Another area is her physical well being. Men secretly expect their women to be sexy all the time .They cannot tell their women that they are fat and need to reduce weight or their clothes look awful.

Women have to mix and match their clothes, accessories daily and being bombarded with those choice questions every time she does that is troublesome for him. He would just say anything she decides would be fine with him and would be of no help to her.

He would not want to tell her to be more conservative about her dressings or being too sexy when they go out. Before marriage, he likes you to be sexy but after marriage, he wants you to cover up. Or it could be the opposite way.

He does not like the idea of other men ogling at his women.Similarly, he cannot tell her to be more circumspect in her work place.He may think she is acting way off when speaking to other men but he is forced to hold his tongue.

He may have problems but he would not want to tell her about it and add to her worries. Women worry about anything and everything.

Why burden her and make her suffer the pain? He is better off drowning his problems with the boys at the watering hole. He is told to leave his work related problems at his work place and not to take it back home .

Men do not really tell the truth when it comes to her cooking.They may not like it but they have to pretend to enjoy it for her sake. She puts so much effort into it and it would be a sin to tell her that it taste like aaagh!

There are so many things a man does not want to tell his wife. They don't like their wife to clean and rearrange their things,to go shopping with them, to help them clean the house,to go out with her friends,the amount they spend on the phone or in front of the T.V .

If there is love, everything will be fine.

“Love life and life will love you back. Love people and they will love you back.”
~Arthur Rubinstein





Reference and thanks to :-

http://www.canadianliving.com/relationships/love/things_men_want_to_tell_women__but_dont.php


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Thursday, June 25, 2009

Having it all is even harder for the men ....

Women can have it all, career and family but what about the men ? We seldom hear about how the modern lifestyle have affected the men.Are the men able to cope with the extra workload ? Will they be torn between their careers and the children ?

With women working in greater numbers , who is left in charge of the children? The men are pushed more and more into playing the female gender roles like taking care of the children , house chores and cooking.The gender roles are no more distinct and has blurred.More and more men are now involved in the domestic routine and childcare responsibilities.

If you are a man with a working wife, you will be hard pressed to accommodate both work and family life in your schedule. You are expected to pull your weight in the family unlike your father or grandfather who never did those jobs in the house.You do not have a choice unless you are rich enough to hire maids to do those jobs.

The result is that modern men feel pulled in every direction. The women is able to multi task while the men are bewildered. A woman may spend 24/7 with the children but let the man have the child for 1 hour and he will go bonkers and quickly send a S.O.S to his wife.A man is not made like a woman .

The modern men will have to bring home the bacon while at the same time ensuring they're an intrinsic part of their children's lives.

For a man , career is very important . They are in a dilemma whether to stay at work late to protect their job, or rush home to do their share of childcare as their wife expects?

Before a man marries, he has two choices. To marry a working wife or a full time housewife? He will have to weigh the pro's and con's .


Reference and thanks to :-

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1195315/Exhausted-guilt-ridden-torn-career-children-No-YOU-girls-Having-harder-men.html

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Saturday, May 23, 2009

Why men leave women ?

Parting is such sweet sorrow. No one wants to leave if they are contented and happy.
Why did Tom Cruise leave Nicole Kidman for Penelope, and Brad Pitt leaving Jennifer Aniston for Angelina?

Are they not very gorgeous alpha females? What does Penelope and Angelina have that Nicole and Jennifer lacked?

For the ordinary plain Jane's, what is it that keeps the men from leaving them ? Can her beauty alone stop him from leaving her? She will definitely need more than just her beauty to make him stay with her.Even 30 year's old marriages may break up. So what went wrong ? It could probably be another younger women in his life.

In a family , it is usually the women who runs the show. The men could be just the breadwinner and help her out a bit. He is incomplete without her.He does not do much household chores but the little he did , he would want to announced to the whole world and want lots of compliments and hugs from his wife.

A wise women would subtly let her man think that he is running the show. She acts in such a way that she is appearing to be subservient to him while unbeknown to him , she is controlling the events in their life.

If she bosses him around,it would show up his dependency upon her . He was brought up to believe that the man is the head of the household. There is a conflict of interest and he feels he cannot measure up to her .He will begin to think ,"Why did he get into such a state of affairs?"

She is too good or too much for him and whatever he does will not satisfy her.He may get loads of criticisms and complaints daily and replayed again and again like a broken down DVD player.Nag ,nag and more naggings from her. How can he feel good about being with her when he is treated that way ?

He feels inadequate, unappreciated and devalued in his eyes. He wants to be the King in his own castle but the Queen is all too powerful.Her wants and needs are insatiable and her insecurities are driving him insane.

I have personally witnessed this loving couple who stayed together . She is always appreciative of her husband's sacrifices, understands him and seldom complaints.She works hard to supplement their incomes and seldom criticize him for his faults.

Even though they were just average income earners , she did not ask for any luxuries and live a simple life helping and serving her husband. The husband is a very lucky man to have such a wife.

The main reasons why men leave is because they cannot get what they wanted from their marriage. They are being put down,taken for granted,not understood,not appreciated, unloved ,no respect,no compassion's, too controlling,too restrictive,incessant demands, no sex or unsatisfactory sex,wife have changed,no more spark,no passions, aggressive like man.. etc.

If the men leave, it is not because you have failed in your duties but the men are expecting too much from you too.They have too high hopes , dreams and fantasy's and they get bored with one woman.

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How long would you wait before you have sex ?

There are those who believed in premarital sex and those who don't. Today , many are involved in premarital sex and it is the norm except for those deeply religious type who abstains from premarital sex. Finding a virgin these days maybe like looking for a needle in a haystack...LOL!

It depends on who you are , where you are and your attitude and perspective on sex. Some may do it on the first date while others on the 3rd or 5th or 6th date or only in marriage.

There are the pro's and the con's about having sex too fast or too slow. No two persons are the same and the results maybe different in each case.You need to remember that men and women are not the same and they do not think alike.What is on your mind may not be the same as on his mind.

You may see it from your feminine perspectives but he being a masculine cannot see yours.You need to verbalize it together and get each others point of views to really understand why he does not act the way he should according to your perceptions of him.

If you are into casual sex, then it does not matter to you about the timing ,because you will follow your instincts and intuitions about sleeping with that guy. It could be a one night stand or a long affair which can lead to a serious relationship.

If you like him a lot and he does the same , then love may blossoms and you will find yourself attracted to him.
One thing will let to another and ending up in bed together becomes a natural progression.

When love is in the air, everything becomes so beautiful. Some girls will melt and yield to the seductive forces employed by those dudes. When she falls in love with him , she is like a speeding train with no brakes.

If he knows how to press her right buttons, she will be his for his takings. That is why those Casanova's who are very skillful in the art of seductions will get their victims.

They have the gift of the gab , the time and the manners to impress their victims. Being handsome maybe an added bonus but it is not very important.

As long as you can feel his love and commitment to you in your relationship, be it earlier or later ,sleeping with him would have less risk and pain. Otherwise, you would feel cheap , used and dirty for sleeping with that scoundrel who will disappear from your life.

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Monday, May 18, 2009

What is she thinking about during sex?

Her body is there but her mind is elsewhere. You will know when you look into her face ,eyes and her body language .

How many men open or close their eyes when they have sex ?They are so busy boinking away and feeling like they are in Heaven.

Some men have eyes but they don't see . They are blind like those night owls and they don't give a damned whether they are sleeping with some cold corpse or a living thing.

What they want is to quickly shoot their load and get over with it. It is their base and animal instincts which comes to the fore.

His brain is switched off and he turns into an animal. He becomes another person totally, the strange being that comes out from his dark side.

The journey to sexual pleasure is littered with potholes. To have sexual bliss is almost impossible . Too many disturbing thoughts goes through her mind while she is in the act of sex.

How can she enjoy sex when her mind is not fully in it? There is no passion and the sex is just tepid or bland.

Those men will need to have telepathic powers to read what is going on in her mind. Many thoughts goes through her mind. She could be thinking of many things which are unrelated to sex .

Her mind cannot relax and she will be continuously distracted from concentrating on the job.

She could be thinking and worrying about the kids,if the door is locked, making too much noise, her job problems,unpaid bills, what to eat , things to buy or what to do tomorrow.. etc." Why don't he quickly cum and finish the job,because I want to go to sleep."

Other women could be thinking or fantasizing making love to their ex's or their fav actors or singers or that handsome hunk down the road.

Then, there are others who cannot think and their minds are just blank and lie down like a corpse and want to quickly finish it by faking orgasms like some zombies.

They treat it like a chore or duty . Their men could be boring ,selfish and stingy in their love and attentions. They deserve what they get.

The men should invest more time and effort to woo their partners if they want to enjoy sex together and the women should not think of anything else during sex except sex itself.

Unfortunately , many men stopped their wooing after they got married and take her for granted.



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Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Behind every successful man ....

"They say behind every great man there's a woman." Or the feminist would say," Behind every man is a great woman ."

Today, there are many women who are highly qualified and have high earnings. Their advancement in their careers is an embodiment of the modern day successful women.

Being successful ,married and having a demanding career can take a tremendous toll on her physical, psychological and mental state.

She suffers from the stress, tiredness and lack of sleep as she juggles her incessant demands of her career and home. Somewhere and something will have to break.

Her feminist ideals of managing her careers and home will be too high to attain and either one will have to suffer as she is only an ordinary mortal and not some wonder woman.

In the past, she only had to hold up half the world but compared to the present situation , she is holding up the whole world with some or little help from her man.

What profits a woman if she can own the world but loses her life ?
Is she getting the best of both worlds?

Do they derive the satisfactions and fulfillment's from their chosen careers .

Is she using the best of her abilities to enjoy a better quality life .What about their roles as mothers and wives ?

This is the dilemma of many modern ,married and working women. Women have got talents, skills and they are now better educated . With the modernizations , life's becomes more complicated , complex and confusing.

Whether they will use their given abilities to enhance their husbands careers or for themselves or their families will ultimately reward them with a happy and fulfilled life or consigned them to the lonely planet.

If they choose the right choice, they will not only be able to help their man in his career but will also have the freedom and pleasure of spending more time with their children. They will be more in tune with their inner calling as a mother ,wife and helper as God designed them to be.

Life is about balance.They need to seek a work-balance in their life .Having plenty of money or materialistic things do not enrich the quality of life and neither will guarantee you happiness.





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Saturday, May 9, 2009

What is it like for a man to have boobs ?

It can be a shame or a source of delight to different people. For an ordinary bloke , it can be shameful , disgusting and being tormented with those extra flesh on their chest.
For a trans gender or a transsexuals, it would be a welcome delight

Some people crave for it but did not get it , while others who did not want it have to accept it whether they liked it or not.

What is it like for a man to have boobs ?

Initially , they may feel elated and enjoy playing with it but after some time , the novelty wears off .

When you don't have it , you want it but when you have it , it is just like a part of your body. You don't feel any special about it anymore .

For the straight guys , it can be an inconvenience as they have to hide them from prying eyes, lest they become the target of attention and unwarranted and unkind comments.

Some of them would hide them by tying a tight bandage around the chest or they wear several layers or baggy clothes.

Going to the beaches or swimming pools were out of question.

The problem is caused by too much female hormones that are present in our food chain. The meat and vegetables we consumed , contained those female hormones .

The contraceptive pills which contains those female hormones, Estrogen and Progesterone are leaked into the environments and those fishes ,animals and plants absorbed them up.

Excessive female hormones in their diet can cause the men to have boobs or being feminized by those hormones.

Though those hormones have an effect on those guys , the effects on females are somewhat different . There are girls who are small breasted or 'A' cup and who wished to increase their size by a cup or more .They have tried every means but are disappointed by the results.

Those moobs cannot be removed by vigorous exercises or diet but only by an operation. The fatty tissue is removed by liposuction and a gland is removed to prevent it from regrowing again.

Moobs are usually associated with those obese people because of their body fats.It is a common occurrence.


Reference and thanks to :-

http://www.thesun.co.uk/sol/homepage/woman/health/health/article2417319.ece


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Sunday, April 26, 2009

Are men only out for sex ?

Men think of sex every 52 seconds and some say every 7 seconds or nano seconds . LOL ! I don't know how far this is the truth.

They cannot help it because their minds are run on testosterone and this fertile hormone made them generate all those sexy thoughts in their brains.

Their brains cannot say no to those sexy thoughts . It pops in when all his senses are distracted and homes in on the trails and scents left by the females.

Not all men are out for sex only. It is wrong to infer that all what men want from woman is only sex .

There are some good men out there who wants a woman for more than sex only. It may be like looking for a golden needle under the oceans.LOL!
There are the good , the bad and the ugly one's.

They may not want sex at that moment but if they are served on a platter , it would be very hard for them to resist. Most men will fail the beauty trap.

Some men may think that women want or desire sex from them when what they wanted was love and understandings.

Men are just simple creatures and think with a single track mind.Sometimes they have difficulties reading your body language .

The way you dress, talk , smile and tease him may give him a wrong signal that you are begging for him to come on. She may not be aware that she is giving him the wrong signals.

If you are going to the bars and night clubs to look for men ,surely you do not expect them not to think of sex.

They are out there for a happy time with booze and sometimes drugs to keep them high and lose their shyness.

Many men do think of sex often but a good man will be able to control his lusty thoughts or base instincts.

He is only human and when he is in a particular situation, he is tempted beyond his control and succumbed to it.

Women should be careful not to be in a situation where they cannot control the events.

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Saturday, January 3, 2009

Going too far with plastic surgery

There are a growing number of men who want to look good by going under the knife.Previously it was the women only but the fad has spread to the men too.

They are going for double eyelids, higher noses, sharper chins, narrower faces,bigger pecs and liposuction's.

Having a natural look is deemed to be full of imperfections. Many want to look like their idols and plastic surgery is the only way they can reshaped their faces or bodies.

The quest for perfections can be a never ending road because once they started on this journey, it will lead them further and further into the irrational and delusional world of make belief's.

They are like mental cases or have psychological disorders , requiring psychological help rather than those plastic surgeries.

There was a recent case of a plastic surgery addicted Korean woman who injected cooking oil into her face after the surgeons refused to operate anymore on her.

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/newstopics/howaboutthat/3439638/Cosmetic-surgery-addict-injected-cooking-oil-into-her-own-face.html

This can develop into a compulsive and obsessive behavior. All surgery is not without risk and the end results may not be what is expected. Disfigurement is a possibility and it can be forever without any avenue to turn back the process.We all read and know about Michael Jackson and his nose.

If you are thinking of trying to improve your life, career or marriage prospects by plastic surgery , think hard and long. The moment you step into that world , you will not be able to control yourself and you will fall into the misguided , fake and unnatural world


Suggested readings :-

http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/life/2008-12/31/content_7357440.htm

http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/life/2008-12/31/content_7357434.htm

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Saturday, September 6, 2008

Why Men Visit Brothels ?

Why are there hookers or prostitutes?

If there are no hookers, there will be no brothels .If there is no demand for their services , then the hookers will be out of service.

The world cannot get rid of this problem because there is a strong demand for this kind of services by the men. There are men who cannot live without sex and once when he enters that place, he can develop into an addiction to it. He will continue to go and seek new pleasures or check for new girls.

Those men who are not attractive or unappealing will not be able to have sex in their real life and they will have to go to the brothels. Those young and unmarried would go there to have sex for fun and experimentation's because they could not afford to woo and marry any girl at that moment.

Those who are married and later divorced , may not entertain a remarriage and may go to those brothels to satisfy their sexual needs. There is no emotional tie ups and they can on and off whenever it suits them unlike a marriage.

Some of the men have fetishes and fantasies and they may not want to do it with their wives or their wives  are not receptive to their ideas. The men would rather do it with those hookers who would do anything within their means to satisfy their clients.

The married men may seek those hookers when they are bored with their partners and want some varieties or when they do not get enough from them. Those brothels serves as an outlet for their sexual urges and stress. Otherwise, they may rape their own children or commit some heinous crimes.

For the men , it is cheaper to go to the brothels than to marry a woman. They get better satisfaction and varieties . Why buy the whole cow when you only want to drink the milk only? It is the time to sow their wild oats before they settle down with one woman.

In our society , it seems acceptable for the men and the women to a certain extent to have sex before marriage. There is no stigma associated with it. Today's brides are sometimes 5 months pregnant or even holding a one year old during the wedding receptions.

Some men may stop going to those brothels after they are married while others may resurrect this activity when they do not get along well with their spouse.

After you have married, the men should stop going to those brothels because many women will not be able to accept this situation. It is considered unfaithful and
will lose her trust and the marriage suffers.

Reference and thanks to ;-

http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,24261720-5017865,00.html
http://www.guardian.co.uk/world/2002/apr/08/gender.uk

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Thursday, August 28, 2008

Are Today's Modern Men Immature , Insensitive And Sex Mad ?

Today's young men are different from the young men of a generation ago. Each succeeding new generations will have it"s own standards and norms of behaviours. Whether they are good or bad depends on each individual's outlook.

The world has changed a lot with the advent of all those technological and electronic inventions and new gizmos. The computer age has  created a border less world .You can connect with each other any where on this planet and distance is no barrier.

The computer is like your window to the world and you do not have to get out of the house to enjoy seeing the world.You can do it within the confines and comforts of your house.

The young people of today speaks a different language and their characters are moulded by the events and happenings of the new world .The young men of yesteryear's were not as tempted as what the new generations are facing now.

The older generations may typecast these young men as being childish, immature , insensitive and sex obsessed. The new generations are a pampered lot and most of them have not face hardships or know what hardship is all about.

They grow up in some middle class family background and because they have not faced any big problems in their life, they live a sedate lifestyle and their maturity are somewhat slower and lower  as compared to the last generations.

What is maturity ?

This is not easy to quantify as various people have different ideas about maturity. In my opinion , a person is only matured when s/he is married and have children. You may be old in years but if you do not marry or have kids, you are not really matured and you tend to have a lower maturity level than a married person of a younger age than you. Responsibility comes with maturity.

Maturity is just a perception and where do we use a yardstick to measure a person's maturity?

If you belong to the older generations , then you will see that today's teens are less matured than them. They are caught in the headlong traffic of getting a degree and it is all about study and study and getting the right results.

They are a pressured lot and achievements are expected upon them by their parents. It is like a rat world .Everyone wants to win  and are afraid to lose.

With the computer age, more pornography is available and sex crimes are on a rise . I would not say that they are sex mad but they do not believe in the sanctity of marriage anymore  and have sex whenever available .

In the present world, it is normal to have kids outside of marriage and sleeping around is very common.Having multiple sex partners is also the norm these days. Some females would say that some men are more geared towards sex than the responsibilities that it brings. Sex without any strings attached.

This is just my generalizations only as there are many men that are matured , sensitive and not sex mad. You read about women not finding the right men because of these factors. How true is it?

Maybe , another factor is men are getting more effiminate and laid back and waiting for the women to come after them.

"To a woman the first kiss is just the end of the beginning but to a man it is the beginning of the end."


Reference and thanks to ;-

http://www.chinadaily.com.cn/world/2008-07/25/content_6877284.htm

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