Mothers -in- laws (MIL )is the chief causes of divorce. There are good , bad and ugly MIL's but those ugly MIL's are more prevalent in our society.
No matter how good or kind those MIL's are, no two women can live in the same house. A ship cannot have two captains. A man cannot have two women in his heart or home. He will either choose one or the other. If he is married, he would be wise to choose his wife.
If he still favours his mother , he is considered a child husband for he still has those apron strings tied to his mother. A man's viewpoints maybe different from a woman .His continue loyalty to his mother can be a cause of friction with his wife.
A good MIL will not interfere in their marriage but will only give them support and understandings. A bad MIL will want to seek control of them and want them to follow her ways.
The world has changed and the new generations have their own ways of doing things. A wise MIL would allow them to make their own mistakes and learn by themselves.
In the Bible, it says that you should leave your parents when you get married. I believe this is the best solution if you do not want to have MIL's problems. You should not stay under the same roof.You do not want her to influence her son or to control your marriage.You should be allowed to make the decisions that will affect your life. Your MIL's should never interfere and force you to follow her ways.
If you cannot afford to live on your own and need to stay with the MIL , God help you ! You would be sleeping on a bed of nails and walking on eggshells every day.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://news.asiaone.com/News/AsiaOne%2BNews/Malaysia/Story/A1Story20090526-144030.html
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