Making the first move to patch things up shouldn't always come from the one who made the mistake but it can come from the one who understands.
In any relationship , they will be problems and this is a fact of life.it is how you handle them that will make or break the relationship.
Someone has to rebuild while the other is tearing down the house.
In any relationship , one should give in order for the relationship to prosper.
A boat cannot move in both directions or it would break into two.
The one who is more understanding and who can grasp the importance of the good relationship should bow and graciously accept the spouse who thinks she is in the right.
Most men would allow their wives to rule and make the final decisions in all matters. This way they will have peace in their life.
After all, it is the women who stays most of the time at home and run the family.
Be gracious ,because everyone make mistakes and what is important is not who is wrong or who started it but that you should quickly smoothen those 'kinks' in your relationship .
The earlier you settle those difference ,the better it is before they fester and become more cancerous..
As in the Christian teaching, settle your problems before the sunset.Don't let it become a mountain .
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There are those who believed in premarital sex and those who don't. Today , many are involved in premarital sex and it is the norm except for those deeply religious type who abstains from premarital sex. Finding a virgin these days maybe like looking for a needle in a haystack...LOL!
It depends on who you are , where you are and your attitude and perspective on sex. Some may do it on the first date while others on the 3rd or 5th or 6th date or only in marriage.
There are the pro's and the con's about having sex too fast or too slow. No two persons are the same and the results maybe different in each case.You need to remember that men and women are not the same and they do not think alike.What is on your mind may not be the same as on his mind.
You may see it from your feminine perspectives but he being a masculine cannot see yours.You need to verbalize it together and get each others point of views to really understand why he does not act the way he should according to your perceptions of him.
If you are into casual sex, then it does not matter to you about the timing ,because you will follow your instincts and intuitions about sleeping with that guy. It could be a one night stand or a long affair which can lead to a serious relationship.
If you like him a lot and he does the same , then love may blossoms and you will find yourself attracted to him.
One thing will let to another and ending up in bed together becomes a natural progression.
When love is in the air, everything becomes so beautiful. Some girls will melt and yield to the seductive forces employed by those dudes. When she falls in love with him , she is like a speeding train with no brakes.
If he knows how to press her right buttons, she will be his for his takings. That is why those Casanova's who are very skillful in the art of seductions will get their victims.
They have the gift of the gab , the time and the manners to impress their victims. Being handsome maybe an added bonus but it is not very important.
As long as you can feel his love and commitment to you in your relationship, be it earlier or later ,sleeping with him would have less risk and pain. Otherwise, you would feel cheap , used and dirty for sleeping with that scoundrel who will disappear from your life.
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Guys go for looks while girls look for security.Girls want to marry rich guys who can provide them a good life.
The female of the species would want a good home, a good life and a good husband. Whether she will find this man or not will depends on her destiny.
When she is young , she will love anyone who will love her.As she gets more matured, she will not simply love anyone for love's sake. She knows that love cannot survive on just bread and water alone.
In this age, some girls would look for the 5 C's, Car, Condo, Cash, Card and Country club. This is a materialistic world.
If you have the 5 C's , you will attract the most beautiful girls and if you do not , then they are out of your league.
In the olden days , their parents would match make them to those scions of the rich and famous.
Ever since then ,the females would be on the look out for the best men they can lay their hands on.
Even in the animal kingdom, the females of some species will only follow the males if they are strong and can protect and provide for them
They are seeking for a strong genes in the men so that their offspring's are strong , intelligent and healthy.
Men and women have their strengths and weaknesses. Each will have their own priority lists.
For the men, it could be beauty ,personality and character,loving, share the same values, companionship, able to cook, take care of the home and have children.
For the women , foremost is security,emotional security, financial security,honesty,sense of humour, manners,affectionate, kind, considerate, trust, love, devotion, best friend,great companion ,smart, intelligent and the list goes on....
It will not be easy finding such a man and in the end, they will have to lower their qualification bars to get hitched.
Many girls in those poor 3rd world countries become mail order brides to get away from their poverty at home.For these girls it is money first and love second. They get married to old men or those invalids who cannot find a wife in their own country.
They do not have a choice, marry any Tom ,Dick or Harry and accept their destiny.
If you are rich and can afford me , I will be your bitch and do whatever you want.Some may discover their pot of gold when those men really love and care for them. Others may find themselves at the gate of hell.
They are women and they will have to meet their destiny's.Life goes on.
Reference and thanks :-
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/448808/top_13_things_women_want_in_a_man.html?cat=41
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It is not impossible but it will depend on the individuals and whether they have a lot in common.
It is like walking through a mine field and not knowing if you will live or die the next moment.
It is so fraught with all kinds of dangers and pitfalls and will not give you the peace and tranquility in your life.
Generally, it is very difficult to get along with each other because of the suspicion and the fear that they may go for each other again and discarding you by the wayside.
There is always a probability and you can never discount that. They may still have those latent feelings for each other . Just waiting for the right conditions for them to germinate.
When you have a thing, you do not know and appreciate the full value of it till it is gone. This is human nature.
Many woman after the separations have regrets about their divorce .If only they had tried harder and not given up easily.
Most women would try to avoid such a situation where the ex comes back into his life. He should not talk to or come into contact with her. Period.
Even though they may not have anymore feelings or love for each other. Still, it is better to remove the seeds of doubts if you want to lead a peaceful and loving existence with him
She may not want to control him and expects him to deal with it and if he fails, only then would she enter into the picture.
Women can be insecure creatures and they guard their turf from other marauding females.
The men should understand the woman's psychological fear of losing the battle to the ex. She will seek reassurance of her existence and his love for her.
The men may not feel what is going through her unless the shoe is on the other side.
Then they will feel the same and will understand the woman's perspective. That is normally the case when you mirror back to him and he will see your point .
Many a time, the men are not aware that they are plunging the invisible knife into their love's heart . For she dared not tell him and suffers in abject silence
Sometimes , it is not possible to just cut off from the ex because of the children.They may have to learn to accept reality and get along with each other as best as possible within certain predefined boundaries and limits.
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Yes and No !You cannot be too truthful and honest all the time with women.You will be too boring and predictable and may end up being a lonely old man . LOL!
You will only put your relationship into peril and if you want to make her happy and keep getting laid , you should take care to say only positive things about her and make her feel she is the only 'WOMAN!' in your life.
They want you to be honest and true but if you listen to them , you will know that it is wiser sometimes to tell a white lie than to tell her the brutal truth.
There are times when she is not interested in the truth but only wants to hear what she wants to hear. If you tell her what she wants to hear, you will validate her thoughts and you will be closer or your bonds with her will strengthened further.
Most men do not think deeply or analyze their thoughts before speaking it out. They just let it out without any filter and then when the women reacts negatively or withdraws, will they realize the consequences of their harsh and insensitive words.
It is often a surprise to the men and they blame the women for being fickle minded, for she can change her directions 180 degrees all of a sudden. This can be very perplexing to those men and they will scratch their heads and wonder what they did wrong.
The men believed it must be their hormones which caused them to wild swings from the height of ecstasy to the depth of hell.
They are used to communicating with their male friends in that way and they sometimes forget that they are speaking to a different species who are more sensitive and forever asking in their minds or analyzing every words that comes out of his mouth.
A man may just say a simple statement and think nothing about it while the women will try to analyze what is behind the motives for saying that . She may even torture herself trying to find the correct meanings to his real intentions .
Women don't lie , they only tell half truths. If she caught you telling a lie, your credibility will be shot to pieces . You will face a very uphill task trying to convince her. There are only certain situations where you can lie to her and be forgiven ....
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In his new book, "Treat Them Mean And Keep Them Keen", Gerry Stergiopoulos has fine tuned the art of seducing a man. He is a gay .
Any tips about getting the right man is always welcome and it is interesting to know what he has written. Knowing where the fault lies is very important.
Why are you still single and unattached?
Is it your fault or blame it on the men or circumstances or destiny ? One cannot absolve oneself and put all the blame on others because you create your own happiness and is the captain of your own ship.
External forces may influence you but if you do not want to go where you do not like, no one can force you . If your girlfriend tells you that it is not your fault , you should not believe it. It maybe a comforting thought and soothe your soul but in reality , you need to look deeper and examine your inner self.
It is not that you do not have opportunities coming along your way , but you did not take advantage of them. Opportunities may not be aplenty and there could only be a few in your life time.
Men are just simple creatures and if you cannot ' tame or domesticate' them, then you do not have a chance of having a relationship which could lead to marriage with them.
They have not changed in their style since the prehistoric dinosaur age. They have the primitive hunter instincts even though they wear a smart suit these days. You will need to understand their behaviours and use the right tactics to entrap them.
The title of his book ,"Treat them mean.." can give a wrong perceptions as no one in the right frame of mind would want to treat their b/f in a very mean way . It would force their b/f to run away or look for another.
I hope after reading his extracts from his book, you would have a better insight into how a man ticks and take the appropriate actions . No two men are the same and you will need to modify and adept it according to your b/f's personality.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1063752/Treat-mean--Big-pants-sex-months-One-mans-fail-safe-tips-winning-man-dreams.html
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