Either by choice or by circumstances , some women will never be mothers in their life on this Earth.
There are some who craved for a child but are barren and cannot conceive. Some have tried the IVF method and is blessed with twins or triplets.For many childless couples, this is the last resort to have conception.
There are some who wanted to have babies but cannot find any right men as their partners. Some became lesbians and inseminated themselves with donated sperms
There is a 66 year old who became a mother recently .Did she suddenly discovered the mysteries of life ?
Some sane and healthy working women have chosen not to have children.
It is their choice but why do they do that ?
Isn't motherhood and children will make us a complete woman and allow us to find fulfillment ?
Without children , you will grow old alone and will never understand what is it like being a mother and a grandmother .
Do you have a purpose and meaning in life if you cannot experience motherhood ?
You may adopt others but the reality is , they are not the same or as good as having giving birth to your own . You carried him for nine months inside your body .
How can one think of not wanting to be a mother when it is the natural process which God created us for the preservation of mankind?
Women who chose not to have children may have mental roadblocks . They may fear the pain of childbirth or heard of stillborn children.Some of them may think , having children can be a drawback in their careers. They cannot focused on their careers .
Children can be a distraction and an encumbrance and they may feel that they are not made to be good mothers.
Unless you are married and have children , your maturity will forever be on a plateau. Those unmarried ,middle age and childless women will appear to be less mature than those married mothers.
If you have never been a mother, you will never know what is it like being a mother and you would not understand why your mother treated you that way.
We think that the single middle age women without a child would make much headway in the office but a new research found that bosses distrust those women who do not want children. They think it is weird for a women not to have children.
Mothers are more normal and bring a sense of humanity to the work place. Though there are drawbacks to working mothers, the overall picture is, they are more trustworthy and reliable than those single women.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-1185128/Why-bosses-right-distrust-women-dont-want-children--VERY-outspoken-mother-ex-boss.html
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Before you fall in love with a guy , you should not only check him out thoroughly but also his parents or specifically his mother or your future MIL.Failure to do this would bring you untold miseries and make your life on Earth like hell.
Check out their relationships and what kind of relationships the guy has with his mother. Is he the independent type or is he the filial son to his mother.This will have a very important bearings to your happiness and sanity.
Do not because of love ignore this checking out of your future MIL. Ignore it at your own perils! You may think you are only marrying his son but it can be a big mistake if you think his mother does not influence his opinions on many things. His actions or in actions will give you plenty of heartaches and headaches.
If you do not want to have any MIL problems , you should seek out his opinions on whether you will be staying together with the MIL or only the two of you after you are married.
The best course after you have married is to move out and stay alone from either parents and live your own life together without any complications from either parents.It is hard enough to understand a man without the complexities of the MIL who would probably give you hell for taking away her son away from her. No matter how good is your in laws, sooner or later , there will be a clash of cultures and opinions .
What if you are already in that situation where you have no choice and your overbearing MIL is lording over your life and treating you like dirt ?
You cannot expect your husband to take your side as he is torn between you and his mother. By right he should be on your side but many a man do not see it this way. Many will think of their mother first and wife second.
If the situation has deteriorated into a no win situation and untenable , you need to stand up to your MIL's abuses and tell her to F.O and leave your husband and family: if the worst comes to the worst.Stand up for your rights to live the way you want or you will be trampled upon.
If you are not going to fight this war,no one will fight it for you . You will forever lose everything and you become like a zombie or be treated worst than a refugee in your own home.
There is no guarantee that you can win this war and not suffer the consequences but this is the only way , if you want to gain back your rights and live your own life with your man.
A trial separation is good because it will enable them to think of what they will miss when you are not there , for they have taken you for granted. However , you must be prepared that things may not go the way you envisioned. Your spineless husband may give you up and if that happens, it is better you seek a divorce and find another man .
If he wants you back , then it will be on your terms and they will have to respect you and your rights. If he does not want you , it is pointless going back to that kind of life. Start a new life ,get a job and be independent.
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