Would you marry a divorcee with children?

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Marry a divorcee with children and get an instant family thrown in. The divorcee comes with a baggage and you will have to accept the whole package . You cannot pick and choose what you want.

When love is in the air, nothing else matters. You just want to be together, share and enjoy each other.When there is love, everything can 'kautim.'(No problemo).

The problem only surfaces when the honeymoon period is over and you get a big headache and wonder why you got into this kind of situation.

Initially, you may have some problems with the kids who may not take a liking to you for replacing their father or mother's place in their hearts. It will require some cajoling, threats and bribery to win them over to your sides.

You would also have to deal with their ex's because of the children who come and go between their divorced parents. For the females,there is the fear that he may want to return back to his ex wife.

His ex wife could make his life unbearable by limiting or cutting off access to the kids. It can be a hassle if he has to resort to the courts.

Having an instant family can strain your financial resources to the limit if you are not wealthy enough to support them .If you are not strong financially , you should not get involved with her .

Your love boat will not go far and you will fight daily and the boat will sink midway. The same mistakes you made in the first marriage will come back to haunt you.

A female divorcee may accept any man as a stop gap measure when she is drowning in her sorrows and financial constraints.She does not have much of a choice.She is no more on two salaries and everything has to be downgraded.

Half is better than none.She is like a drowning person clutching at straws. Life can be very tough for her.She may have to give up all those luxuries of life to lead a simpler life.

If she has the ability to support herself and children , it can be quite stressful as a single parent but she will manage it somehow. Being close to their parents can help elevate their hardships.The grandparents can help to take care of her kids while she works.

If you love the divorcee, you will have to love the child too or it will be a thorn in your marriage .There are sometimes cases where the women loves the men but close an eye to the sufferings of her child .Those men abuse their children and sometimes end in death. It is a tragedy when that happens.




This post was written after reading Lisalicious post in her blog .

Will you be able to accept a divorcee with kids?