Should women say 'I love you' first ?

If you love the man ,will you tell him the great news or will you wait for him to tell you first ?

There are two school of thoughts on this important matter. I think one should not be too rigid and apply the rule across the board. It will depend on your depth of your relationship with him and whether you love him more than he loves you .

You may get confused with the conflicting views from both sides. There is no law to forbid you from telling him first . It is only the opinions of those people who think that it is better to let him tell you first.

Whether you do agree with them or not is your decisions. We are no more living in the Victorian era and expects everything to be set in motion by the men. Women and men are now equal in this modern world. There are no more distinctions between the sexes.


There is no black and white and hard and fast rule . If you feel the strong urge to tell him first,go ahead or keeping it inside of you will make you go crazy.

A man and a woman will have different reactions when told that s/he is loved . For a man , he would continue the relationship and will reassess the relationship ,if he really can love her back.

If he loves her, then it would make his job easier. If he does not love her, he would still continue that relationship with her and it suffers no harm.

Whereas, a woman may break off the relationship when she is not in love with him or the relationship is put on ice . A man's fear of rejections is greater than a woman.

If you are going to wait for him to say first, you will have to wait for 100 years because some men will never bring themselves to do that.From past experiences, they got rejected and the end of the friendship.

It is easier for a woman because it is like going through a Japanese paper wall .While for a man it is like climbing Mt. Everest. Though it is the same thing ,it is easier for a woman because men seldom reject a woman's advances while women have been known to offer stiff or token resistance to the man's overture.

If he is not ready , you can either wait for him to be ready and you will know where you stand with him. If he is not interested, then you can look out for another one and stop wasting your time on him.

You will have to take this risk as you cannot be waiting upon him and this wait may last a long time and you will be wasting your time and your youth on a failed venture.If he is not ready for a commitment, then he is never ready for another 5 or 10 years.

You have been forewarned. If you wait by the sea shore for any hints of those three little words from him, you will sooner turned into a stone statue before those words can ever come out of his mouth.

It does not matter who said it first. If you don't get a favourable response from him , then you need to move on . This will make sure that he is the right man.

If he is doing all the chasing , then you will need to just soak in his affections and those little words will tumble out of his mouth very soon when you response in kind.



Suggested reading:-

http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/personal/12/26/tf.women.say.love.you/index.html?iref=mpstoryview