I'm not ready for a relationship?

You probably would have heard this once too many times or their equivalent of that they want to be alone when they want to leave you .

It is an often used excuse to tell you that they are no more into you  and are opting out. They do not see any future with you and by saying those words, they hoped to cushioned the impact of their leaving you in the dumps. Those are just sugar coated words to minimize the hurt and make you feel better .

It is better this way than to be blunt and telling you directly into your face that they do not like you anymore or some words to that effect. Many men cannot bring themselves to tell you the truth as they do not want to hurt you .They started it and they want to end it . You were like a ball to enjoy and to throw away when he has lost interest in you.

They do not really mean what they say as they will soon  be seen in the arms of another girl. Do not be surprised or baffled because they say one thing but do another.

If you hear those words from the men, it means that you are not his kind of girl and he wants to be a friend only and nothing more.This is the way men talk.

Every relationship starts off like a good fairy tale . They fall in love and when the magic dust disappears, they see each others faults . They have reached the watershed in their relationship and have to decide to continue on the same road or to go different ways.

There could be many reasons why the men want to break off the relationship.It could be boredom or that he found something about you which he does not like or he found somebody better or simply , he is the non committal type.

Whatever the case, they have come to a dead end or a mental road block and must part. The end of a short and sweet love, for parting is such sweet sorrow or tears of joys.

He is not destined for you and that's it. Get over it and move on with your life.

Reference and thanks to :-

http://ezinearticles.com/?Why-Men-Say-One-Thing-and-Do-Another&id=1436787

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Snitch On A Cheating friend ?

Would you tell your friend's husband/wife or gf/bf if you found out your friend was cheating?

There are two school of thoughts. One group thinks it is morally right to tell and the other group thinks that it is none of their business. Who is right ?

I do not think it is right to tell our friend that his/her partner is cheating. How do you know s/he is cheating just because you saw them together a few times ? You maybe branded a busy body or a nosy Parker.

Do you have concrete proof that they are cheating? What if you were wrong ? Imagine what untold miseries and harm you would do to your friend and your friendship.

You may think that you are protecting your friend but what right have you to spread unconfirmed informations and malinger someone when you do not know exactly anything about their relationship.

Should you share your suspicions with your friend ,absolutely not! It would be much better if you keep those thoughts to yourself and let your friend find out himself/herself.

What you can only tell your friend is what you saw and nothing else and leave them to find out the real truth. You cannot be seen to be jumping  into the conclusion that he/she is cheating without any concrete evidence based on only what you saw them together.

Your friend may not take kindly to your insinuations about his/her partner. Most of them are very protective of their partners and when you go down that road, their minds are closed and will not listen to any negative ideas unless their relationship are soured and there are questions hanging in the air about their faithfulness or philandering ways. They would live in denial and rationalize their

If they are at the point of getting married, telling them would be like standing infront of the track from an oncoming train.I do not think I will want to do that.

If you are thinking of  snitching on a cheating friend, be prepared that you could be treated like an enemy by one or both of them or your friendship be terminated. In the long run , she may after discovering the truth , accept you back but then the friendship will no more be on the same levels again.


Will it be worth it? Maybe, you need to experience the real situation and find out the truth.



Related topic :-

http://www.everywomansblog.com/should-we-tell-her-shes-marrying-a-cheater

How To Impress Your Dinner Date

If you have instant chemistry and  can click with each other, you will not have any problems impressing each other. For the most part in the early stages , a lot of us may not discover what turns her on and it may take some exploratory ventures before those sparks can strike like lightnings and shoots through the two opposite terminals.

First impression counts and it is very important if you want to secure another date from her.  Being on time is the first of a series of test where she will see how you will perform. Don't come empty handed but with a beautiful bouquet of flowers which will warmth her heart and make her feel serene and happy. Flowers have a special meaning to those ladies.

Women are always giving you tests to gauge your character and probe into your inner soul to get the clues whether you are the one for her or not. She will have to decide if she wants you as only a friend or a potential mate. This will be decided very early on the first date and that is why the men will need to impress her that he is a right potential mate.

Since she takes so much trouble to preen herself for this date, she expects you to do the same and be well groomed, on your best behaviour like a gentleman  and treat her properly like a lady. You need not only have to look neat, and clean but you may have to smell sweet and manly too.

Take her to some place that is classy and dine her  at the best restaurant as the ambient there will make her feel more romantic and create the right favourable mood for a long esctatic and pleasant night

This is your first date and you should not scrimp and appear cheap. To her opinion , it is not about money but by how much you value her as a person.

To impress those ladies, you will have to be a real and keen listener, keep your outer and inner ears open and really listen to what she says and do not open your mouth too much.

When you talk to her , make sure you are looking into her eyes and not on her chest . The eye is the window into her heart. It shows that you are paying rapt attention to what she is saying to you and those eyes are marvellous to look at when you like her.

Be mysterious and do not divulge too much information about yourself as she will be mystified and would like to know more of you.

Be confident or act confident and do not argue with her but just state your opposing views and let it go.Do not argue with any woman, for you will never win . She will take it personally and it will be the end of this beautiful relationship. She is entitled to her thoughts. Do not agree on everything with her too ,as this will not be a challenge to her.

After the first date , call her up within three days to talk to her  and ask her for another date .If she agrees , you are on and the game starts...


Reference and thanks to :-

http://www.askmen.com/dating/curtsmith/39d_dating_advice.html

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Want To Leave But How ?

I'M PACKING MY BAGS...
GOODBYE ! AUF WIEDERSEHEN !

"I never wanted to go away, and the hardest part now is the leaving you.. "

Sock It To Him !

..."I don't know how to not love you, I only know how to not let you go. ~Tigress Luv, The Breakup Guru.........

In the beginning , everything is just so fine and sweet and you think s/he is the one you are looking for .

When the magic portion disappears or the honeymoon period is over , you will see the faults of an imperfect person ; you begin to have doubts and this could make or break your relationships.

There comes a time when you realized that s/he is not the perfect one for you and you want to move on with your life .

How would you break the news gently to him/her  as diplomatically as possible , minimizing any fallouts or collateral damage.

There is no way you can escape the pain and effects of a failed relationship. The pain will be more on the receiver side as being dumped or rejected is very demoralizing .

After much deliberations , you think you had enough of him and it is time to bid adieu to your beau . Breaking up is such sweet sorrow and you will have to perform the job whether you liked it or not.

What is the best way to apply the medicine so that the victim will not feel the pain nor linger on in abject miseries for all his life ?

Will you administer the short and the quick ' go for the jugular' or will it be the slow  but still deadly  poison method ?

If you still do not know how to dump your soon to be ex, you can always asked the 'Guru of Knowledge Google .'

According to some experts on love affairs , you should be direct and be face to face with that person. For most girls , they would rather hear it from the lips of that person to confirmed the truth . Any other way by text, message or phone cannot be taken as the truth.

The message or text could be send by someone other than the original person. Just tell it as what you feel inside your heart . The end justify the means.

Before you land the TKO blow or give her the bitter medicine  , sweetened it a bit  ,praise her and thank her for the time . Make a clean break and do not say anything more which can confused her.

Everything will find it's own level and whether you can still be friends or not will depend on circumstances. Leave it to fate.

If telling her/him face to face is very difficult for you , then you may consider writing a letter or e- mail where you can better put your thoughts down on paper and then meet him for one last hurray.

She/he  will soon get over the disappointments. You will in  time fall in love again with another .
 Your love  cycle will begin again just like the four seasons.

What's your opinion ? Any comments are welcome .

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