Should you stay in an unhappy and loveless marriage for the sake of your kids?

It is a very difficult decision for those couples who find themselves in this dilemma.Which is better for your kids, to stay together or to divorce?

Put it in another way. Would you be able to raise your kids who would fare better in life if you stay together or divorce?

Would you find it more conducive to raise your kids in a dysfunctional environment or in a peaceful one ?

Which is more paramount, your own happiness or your children ? Can you be a good parent when you are unhappy always ?

Would you stay in an unhappy and loveless marriage for the sake of your kids ?

If there is no more love in the family , the home is like a war zone and a battle ground between the parents.Parents may fight everyday over every little issues and sometimes violence is unavoidable. If such a condition exists in a home , it would be better to divorce and live separately.

If we seek divorce ,we may fear that the children will grow up without one of the parent's love.

How you handle your divorce and your parenting responsibilities will affect the emotional health of your children.

Some divorce can be amicable while others are acrimonious. If you can have an amicable divorce where you can share equal parental rights , then it would be better to divorce and live separately.

The children will grow up having two homes and will not be seriously affected by the divorce. You will be happier and and be in the proper frame of mind to look after their welfare while they are growing up.

The researchers say that being brought up by a secure single parent is better than being brought up by a couple whose relationship is volatile.

When you stay in a marriage and your mental and psychological state is on tender hooks, you cannot give your very best to your kids.Your perpetual state of anger and your sufferings will tell on your kids.Your trauma will be their trauma.

In such a scenario, I feel it is better to divorce and stay separately.A hurtful and angry parent is not a good parent.She may vent her frustrations unto her children and sometimes she is overcome with stress and depressions and may want to commit suicide together with her children.

If you have tried your very best to mend your marriage and it still does not work out, then leaving is the best option. There is no other recourse if your partner does not want to try to solve the impasse or to seek a compromise solution to the failed marriage.




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