Who is to be blamed? Is it the husband or the wife or both or neither ?
A counselor turned author , psychotherapist Gary Neuman claims that women are to be blame for their husbands' indiscretions. In his book, 'Advice in The Truth About Cheating: Why Men Stray and What You Can Do to Prevent It.'
That is from the man's point of view while women think this is an appalling perspective. We need to see both sides of the opinions before we will know the truth as the man and woman do not hold the same views over the same matter. We will have to compromise over the differences.
He recommends women take a subservient role in marriage.woman should praise her man for providing for the family, even if she earns more than him. In any marriage, praises should be bountiful and criticisms and complaints should not see the day lights.
Mr Neuman's advice includes always forgiving him, providing sex on demand and taking an interest in his hobbies.This should keep him by your side and he will not leave you for another.
Have you done that? Most women would do the opposite and that's why there are so many divorces. I find that many non Christians cannot forgive easily and they always keep grudges and this is bad for their health. The fire burns them more than him and they will wait for the chance to repay him.
The man continues to shoot poison arrows at her and conveniently forgets what he has done afterwards and act nonchalantly while those poison arrows are stuck in her heart and festers for days and months and sometimes years...
Women should wear sexy clothes while doing the cooking and cleaning. This point is very important as it will keep the men fixated on them and ignite sparks of love for their mate. Men are moved by sight .
A sexy partner is more appealing than a glob with baggy clothes.If you want to keep your men you should do that or soon his eyes will wander to that sexy young thing next door.
The woman will not see herself as the wrong party as the man left her and it must not be her fault.Chances are you did very little wrong and it is the men who have changed . This opinion originates from most females .The females have this intuitive feelings and they always feel they are right.They did their best but it was not enough for the men.
In such a situation we need to see the perspective from both sides. It is not about the woman's perspective only as it cannot be all the truth. She may see the problem only from her side and not from her husband's position. Her husbands views are also important. This is what makes a relationship viable and long lasting.
In your husband's eyes, you could have been too demanding, too lethargic, too neat, too dumb, to slim, or too plump or not enough sex which is usually the main problem.
We cannot say it is the man or the woman's fault unless we deal with a case by case basis.
On a general consensus basis , I think the man leaves simply because he does not get what he wants in a marriage .
Husbands leave for many reasons ,it could be boredom or the lack of passions or the lack of communications or love just died and flew out of the windows.
The Re-education Of The Female, which tells women to follow their man's orders if they want to keep him, has been a recent success in the U.S.
Reference and thanks to :-
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-1051069/Author-risks-fury-millions-women-claim-THEY-blame-husbands-stray.html
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/633683/when_your_husband_leaves_you_for_another.html
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